To block DSS's Mum for contacting me..

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Just as the title says really, after having a shit load of abuse/judgement thrown at me and DH. AIBU to block her, avoid the her from now on and just leave DH to take the torrent of abuse again ....... or is that asking for her to create issues? And realistically, how long can I avoid her for .....
(Been with DH, 10 years, she has been difficult on and off. But I have always tried to be friendly for the sake of DSS)

Yeah you should block her, especially if she's been rude to you for 10 years. Wow.

I would have blocked her when she first became abusive.

She doesn't need to communicate with you. Block her and continue to support dh in what he gets.

Block her!

I'd have blocked her the first time she was abusive to me. Hopefully DH would have too.

Block her.

10 YEARS?? The woman needs to grow up.

What age is your step son? I do think you should block her, no one should have to put up with abuse, but are there any practical reasons she would ever need to contact you, or vice versa?

Given the ten years separation I assume he is old enough to have his own phone? In which case she doesn’t need access to you when you are alone with her son.

Poor boy - his mum is a selfish eejit

Yes he is old enough for own phone, I have always been of the mindset that open communication is best. I even hosted her a couple of times at Christmas or celebrated birthdays together so DSS could have what he wanted. However it is not working anymore, I'm sick of being told that my DH is a terrible father and we need to step up as parents.
(For the record DH is far from terrible - we have DSS eow, have frequently requested more but she won't allow it and are at the stage of going to court, DH has never missed a single support payment, plus tops up with sports, clothes birthdays/Christmas, private education and pocket money, DH will alway take DSS to sport on our non contact weekend, we have tried countless times to take on holidays but never been allowed)

I've blocked her and feel weirdly better, glad it wasn't just me thinking it was a good idea in a moment of rage !