My friend set me up with someone they know through work (doesn’t know him very well and wouldn’t say they’re friends as such). Met with him, thought he seemed generally a nice guy (although a few things he said made me think hmm?!) but I didn’t fancy him and didn’t think I’d see him again. On leaving I said something like “nice to meet you” and was about to leave, then he put his arm out for a hug. I returned the hug, we said bye, and left separately. I didn’t contact him as didn’t want to meet again and presumed he wasn’t interested as whilst he was very chatty, he wasn’t flirty or anything and hadn’t seemed either keen or not, if that makes sense.
So a coupl of days later I got a text from my friend saying he’d text asking them to apologise to me that he hadn’t been himself and on full form and that he wasn’t feeling great and shouldn’t have gone out!
My first thought was why he couldn’t he have text me that? I was angry to be honest. This is a man is his 40s asking my friend to pass a message on. He didn’t have to meet me again or call, a simple text would’ve been easy to do.
However, another friend thinks he’s done this as he feels that I wasn’t interested so has said this to try and save face and make excuses for the fact I may not be interested. He’s therefore contact my friend in case I’ve said something negative so he can try and get them to see things differently.
At the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter as I’m not interested in him. I’m analysing it though and am curious as to what others think!