Meet up

[BillyBobNoMates]

So I really struggle to have friends

Long suspected I have some kind of issue socially. I seem totally average,I have a professional well paid job and I seem busy and social but really I have 3 good friends spread around the country then just local family and no other friends. I have No hobbies and no great interaction with people in real life day to day. I'm overweight but long to have a hobby, I'm quite a fit and healthy fat person but worry that I can't do things like kayaking because I wouldn't fit in it or paddle boarding because I wouldn't find clothing in my size. You see the problem? Aside from my size just in general I'm scared of making friends because I'm sad upfront that they'll ghost me/be my best mate then drop me etc I've had a lot of this in the past and it really upsets me.

So anyway thought I'd bite the bullet and look on Meet up. It's all so specific "30-45 year old women who are single and into science" etc. I don't have a hobby so I don't know what I'm into,why isn't there just a walking group or a sewing group etc?? I just want to try stuff see how I get on and then try and make some friends. God that sounds pathetic. Anyway not sure what my AIBU is but thanks for the space to vent.

The meet ups near me have walking groups on them. Are you in a city as maybe there are less walking groups than there would be in the country. If you like sewing have you looked on Facebook or similar for groups, lessons, one off sessions etc? I’ve seen all of those around here.

I came off social media because I want to go back to real life plus I hated seeing people plaster their perfect fake lives over it there is 1 walking group on there not sure of the ages etc though

I’m with you on the “finding it difficult when everyone seems to have perfect lives” (even though I know they don’t and try to remember that). Do you have a village or town hall near? There will be posters up with local groups probably. Is there an evening class you could do at a local college?

Well done for making the first step.

You might find this useful:
www.spiceuk.com/
They're pretty inclusive, and although they're more into social/restaurants/walking than they used to be, they still have a few interesting activities.

Kayaks come in different sizes, and there are also sit-on ones. Or you could try a canadian canoe.