I know that I’m very lucky to be pregnant and that I’m having these concerns far too late in the day, but I’m really struggling to figure out how to cope with these feelings.
I’m 31 weeks pregnant with my third baby. My two older children are twins who will have not long turned three when the baby arrives.
When we found out we were having twins we pretty much decided that we would be done, but a few years down the line obviously things changed. I was very keen to have a third and both my husband and I were delighted when I found out I was pregnant.
Now, however, I’m scared that we’ve made a mistake. I look at our current life and think that maybe two children was the right number, and wonder if we were wrong to rock the boat. I am scared that the baby will feel left out as she grows up because my boys are so close to one another. I’m also afraid that the boys will resent me because they already have to share me for cuddles and they find that difficult. How will they cope when there’s a baby on my lap all the time? My husband works away a fair bit and I feel like I manage reasonably well most of the time, but I guess I’m afraid that the third child will tip the balance and it will all go wrong.
Has anyone had these feelings during pregnancy? How did you deal with them?