To ask for some kind words re pregnancy

[runforwomen]

The long and short of it is that I've just found out I'm pregnant.
DH and I tried for 3 years to conceive DS2yo, I had to have fertility treatment and we were about to start IVF when we found out I was pregnant.
I never considered that I'd be in this position now not knowing what to do and contemplation a termination.
However, I am at the end of a block.of intensive training and have just been offered my dream job to start in June next year (i would be due in July), so would have to delay starting or even pass up the job - they have already agreed to waiting that long to take me on, I couldn't ask them to extend it further. We are planning to buy a house summer next year which would also be delayed.
I'm just shocked. We had unprotected sex once this month, we never have before now since DS was born even though I didn't think it would be possible.
I know in my heart we aren't in the position to have another child yet, it wouldn't be fair on anyone and we wouldn't be giving the baby a good start because of that. BUT what if in a year or two down the line we try for DC and it doesn't happen for us? I would always look back and kick myself.
I'm not really looking for advice, I know noone can tell me what I should do, but I was just wondering if anyone has been in a similar position before and how they reassured themselves that they were making the right choice?

Sorry didn’t want to read and run but good luck xx

Entirely up to you Hun don't feel pressured I am in a similar position (will have a massive career/study impact) but have decided to proceed anyway (and as a recently single parent) but I equally have spoken to many wonderful women who made the decision to terminate.
Good luck whatever you decide to do, you got this! X

One thing I've found helpful is planning/dreaming two separate lives, one with the baby and one without it. I have also written pros and cons lists, but realised some carry more weight than others so numbered then in terms of importance. X

Are you sure your new job can't get maternity cover? Obviously not ideal for them but it is illegal to turn you down for the job just because they find out you're pregnant.

How does a new baby work for your family? What gap would you like between DS1 and the next? How much would you regret not proceeding with this pregnancy if you did struggle?

I think you and your DH need to sit down and think through both scenarios. If you both want to make it work there's always a way to, perhaps sharing your mat leave? Alternatively, if you both feel it's the wrong time you know it's the right choice.

Some things are meant to happen. Good luck with whatever you do x