Letting ex stay in my house?

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Anyone done this? And how did it go? Need to travel for business purposes, and I thought of letting him look after the DCs in my house to not cause too much disruption. So they're still close to their after school activities and school. We live in the same area but still, he lives in a 1 bedroom with his finance and her daughter. I live in a 4 bed, and my DCs have a bedroom each, that's one of the reasons I'm considering this, otherwise they will all be cramped in a one bedroom for 5 days.

But I also have my concerns tbh, just looking to see if anyone done this before?

I had a bf who used to stay at his ex's house when he visited. He would look through everything and tell me he did. I mean all her drawers, paper work basically spying on her and they were meant to be friends. ( I never told her because it would have made things bad for their children but I dumped him for it )
He stayed there for the same reason as yours is planning which is fine but lock away your private stuff no matter how well you get on.
My exh also did this. my dc told me so I stopped letting him upstairs on his own.

If you trust him and there are no abuse issues then absolutely makes sense. Would the kids be happy with it? (Not done it myself for a week but certainly did it for shorter periods)

We did it, quite a few times. But I can trust my ex, he always made the effort to clean and tidy on the day I was due home and it was better for the children. Worked fine for us.

Lock up jewelry and small valuables as well as other private things or leave them with a close family member you trust. Not just because of him but because undoubtedly the fiance and her daughter will be coming by or staying over as well. Hopefully they don't have sex in your bed. 😒

My ex stays with me whenever he visits ( he lives overseas and doesn't have a property in this country) either when I am at home or, at times, if I arrange to go away when he is in the country. But we get on reasonably well!

Hopefully they don't have sex in your bed.

This is one of my concerns, I cannot look at my bed the same way again. Even if they didn't, I'll assume they did 🙈. Is it fair that if they break something in the house i want them to pay for it?

A friend left an ex in her flat for a few hours while she did something else, he went through her underwear drawers and demanded to know why she had stockings "you never wore stockings for me", found an old iphone and read all her private emails and used the information as a stick to beat her with.

Just sayin'...

If your children are all old enough to tell you what goes on, then do it, but put your private stuff away. If you've got a loft put them there, or in a relatives.

Personally I'd by cheap bedding and give it away afterwards. Or let one of your children sleep in your bed and he take theirs.

Don't do it. All you'll be doing is inviting trouble into your house.
They'll snoop around your stuff. The financee may get resentful - why shuldn't SHE have the 4-bedroomed house? The ex may appropriate some of 'his' things.
Just not worth it.

I wouldn't

No, never, not all of them. Oodles of resentment will result. Don't do it.

This man managed to produce enough sperm that created 5 children. He will also need to consider how to house those 5 children that he created. It's not good enough for a non resident parent to say that he lives in a one bedroom with his new woman and child, he needs to make an appropriate space for his other children when they want to come and stay with him.

It depends if you trust him. I wouldn’t, but my best friend does - every other weekend she stays elsewhere and her ex stays with the kids at hers (her house is specially adapted for one of their children). She trusts him to respect her stuff and he does.

So doesn’t really matter what other people think. What do you think? Can you trust him to respect your home?

I'd have the same concerns as PP's, so no way would I want that.

@MidniteScribbler he has three DCs with me
And none with her. The daughter is his stepdaughter, and he just moved in with her and her daughter. I know what you're saying about providing appropriate space for the children. Can you see why he's an ex? He's irresponsible and so immature, always want the easy life. Hence why he moved straight in with her and couldn't be bothered to find a house big enough for his children 

My ex used to insist on "babysitting" our daughters, in my house, whilst I was at work. I didn't particularly like this arrangement but I didn't have alternative childcare and needed to go to work.
He was ( and still is ) a total and utter waste of space. I would come home to my house looking as If it had been ransacked, he would trash the place, eat everything he could lay his hands on and steal anything that wasn't nailed down. He would also go through my letters and documents and my underwear drawer and question why I had new underwear.
It would also take me hours to get him out of my house, he seemed to think that he had a right to be there for as long as he wanted and would try to take over.
I know this is an extreme example but no, I wouldn't do it if I were you.

Oh, and he would also invite his family round, family who had made it clear that they didn't like me. I would come home some days to a houseful of his relatives, all sat there eating my food. Used to think I'd come back to the wrong house sometimes.

Bloody hell Patsy. Tell us where u buried him, we wont tell