My husband keeps looking at pictures of ex girlfriend on Instagram, is he still in love with her?

[Evelynjean]

My husband and I separated a couple of years ago for around a year, he began dating a younger woman who he was obsessed with. After a year of separation we reconciled as we wanted to give it another shot for the sake of our children and have moved two hours away from his ex girlfriend.
I thought we were happy as we have had a great few weekends together recently and he takes photos of us and posts them on social media as if he wants to show us happiness and proclaiming his love for me.
However over the past 4 months I have caught him regularly gazing at pictures on Instagram of his ex girlfriend (he doesn’t know I’ve seen him doing it).
I am worried he is still in love with her as he hasn’t seen her in over a year and I would have thought given it’s been a while since he has seen her he would be able to put her out of his mind? Sure after a year of not seeing someone you would gradually forget about them?
Update-
I contacted her asking her if they had been in contact and voiced my concerns.
She replied saying that he had not contacted her but she can see that he looks at her Instagram daily (something to do with Instagram stories, you post pictures/videos and you can see who views it) and she told me he once looked at her 4 times in one morning. She also said that he had seemed to accidentally ‘like’ and old photo of her a few weeks ago and then ‘unliked it’ meaning he was trailing through all her old photos before he had even met her! I don’t know what to think? But I guess it’s a good think he hasn’t messaged her? Although he seems to not be able to very long without checking up on her.

It’s hard i know, but if you’re not willing to ask you need to accept living in that limbo, and this will be part of your life.
If you’re happy with that, ok - but if you really want to know/sort this out, you need to talk to him like an adult and not hide your head in the sand.

Oh love. Don’t you see. You can’t hide any truth.
If you’re on here asking, it means you’re unable to just suck it up.

What do you want

You know the answer. You have to choose the next step, but to be quite frank quite soon the decisions will probably be taken out of your hands. You realise this but your trying to distract yourself. Your human, and these are your feelings but not acknowledging the situation does not make it ant less real or make it disappear. You need to have the conversation.

I don't know your other thread about this.

He didn't resolve his feelings about this pretty ex, is that it?

You have two choices.

1. Stick with him and commit to him bearing in mind that he is conflicted still and hope that her hold on him diminishes (not impossible).

1. Hold your head up high and LTB and work out how you can parent your 3 precious kids between you both.

In which case, it will fall to pieces, but not forever. You are in a rotten limbo right now and I feel for you.

My sister does this thing where she asks for advice then, if she doesn't like the answer, she continues to ask different people until she finds someone whose opinion fits her narrative. This is what you are doing OP. He's not over her and you are kidding yourself if you think it's going away.

Either confront him or spend your life angry at the wrong person.

If you two are getting along great he's probably just reminiscing about the one who ultimately wasn't right for him but still was a positive part of his life. We're all allowed to do this as long as we're discreet.

I would not put up with this s**t.
You need to deal with it head on and just ask him. "Darling can we have a chat...there have been a few occasions over the last few months where I have entered the room and noticed that you are looking at pictures of your ex on Instagram . I think this is something that we need to discuss as it's really unsettling me....Blar blar blar...."
Basically he stops doing it or you stop doing him.

Oh my. Zombie thread and and then witchcraft.