To not do the school pickup

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I live 130 miles away from family, on Wednesday we (ds6 and myself) are due to go there as my friend is getting married on the Friday, so we will have a few days to see family.

When I was on the phone to my sister she said to her daughter (7) "if you ask aunty nicely she might do the school run" so her daughter asked me.

But I am at my mum's in day and my brother is on night shift so won't be up until 2pm and id love to spend the minutes with him, especially as my sister will be coming to my mum's from school and then we're staying with her.

I just feel terrible as my niece asked and is aware, but I haven't seen my brother in 6 months :( will I be wrong to change my "maybe" to a "no" I'll tell her why

No one?

Would help to know how far away the school is. If it’s going to take you half an hour or less then surely you could do that to make your niece happy and not much time away from your brother. If it’s miles away that’s a different story....

My dc would be soooo excited if uncle picked them up. It's the kind of thing dc remember but only you know what time you have, what you want to do and what your priorities are.

Can you not do the school run with tour brother? You can chat on the way there together and DN then gets both of you collecting her. X

I doubt brother would go, as he has work, also he sees them regularly! I don't particularly like doing school pick ups either! I suppose I'll have to go even though it'll take longer than half an hour as there's 2 schools to go to for niece and nephew

Just say no. This is a total non issue.

Bit weird that your sister would think you'd want to do the school run when you're there for a visit.

I'd say no if that's how you feel, it's absolutely fine and she would have coped if you were visiting.

Why can't you do the school run and see him when you get back ? Or one of the other days you are there?

Because there's only going to be about 2 hours to see him before he goes to work, I do not want to spend one of those hours in a school. Maybe I'm just miserable. I'm going to say no I think, risk looking horrible

YANBU.

Sister made a suggestion probably because neice would like it, saying no because you only have a small window to see brother is acceptable. Unless she needs you to do it (if so she should have asksd) there is no reason she should be upset.

I would ask your brother to go with you. He might be happy to go just to spend time with you. But if not, I wouldn't feel too bad about saying no to your niece and explaining why

Of course YANBU! Just say no.

YANBU - just explain to your niece that you want to see your brother (her uncle) for longer so you can’t do the school run this time.

Totally fine, she may be disappointed but that’s not for you to manage!