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My best friends sister kidnapped my car

75 replies

SerenDippyEggs · 21/10/2018 17:22

I am FUUUUMING. Sorry to use the cliché Mumsnet term but I am.

Last night my best friend of 10 years asked me to go out for a few drinks, so I drove to her house as it's quite far to walk. I then parked my car at the end of her drive as instructed (she lives at home with her parents and sister still) and put my keys on the table in her hallway. I asked if they wanted me to park elsewhere to avoid moving about or if they wanted to block me in. Her parents said no, so I said to her Mum oh feel free to move my car if you need to get out as I know she has the insurance where you can drive any car. I didn't see my friends sister.

We then shared a taxi to the pubs and enjoyed our evening, bumped into a few people are good friends with and ended up staying at their house as it was closer to where we were. This afternoon, we enjoyed a nice walk back to my friend's house to find my car was gone, but all the other cars were still on the drive. We obviously shit ourselves and ran inside to find nobody was home and my keys were gone. I tried ringing my friend's sister and parents with no answers, and so called the police. As I was on the phone, her sister waltzed in with a cheery "helloooo!" and slammed my car keys on the table.

Long story short, I asked her what the fuck she'd been doing and her response was "it was blocking me in so I thought I might as well just drive it round, I only popped to Costa"

My friend is furious. I am furious. Her mum was apologetic and said she only told her to move it before she went out for the evening - however I'm not close at all with her sister as she's a compulsive liar and has caused problems in the past. I'm so annoyed!!! I didn't take it any further with the police and apologised to the lady who took my call as I love this family like my own and didn't want to cause any bad blood, but I'm so annoyed. She has also curbed my wheel at the Costa drive through 😩 I did lose my cool and shouted at her but she then started shouting at me and turned it round to be my fault for parking there, even though I was told to. I can't be arsed with this, I just wanted a relaxing Sunday!

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AGHHHH · 21/10/2018 17:25

Of course YANBU to be angry that someone took your car for a drive without permission.

ButchyRestingFace · 21/10/2018 17:27

How old is she? Have you told the family that she damaged your car? She sounds delightful.

Aquamarine1029 · 21/10/2018 17:28

Bill her to fix the damage. Don't let this cow get away with it.

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SerenDippyEggs · 21/10/2018 17:29

@ButchyRestingFace she's 24, I am 26. I have told my friend who is furious but at the same time I can see why she wouldn't get too involved as they live under the same roof due to circumstances they can't change at the moment

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Holdingonbarely · 21/10/2018 17:30

Is the car damaged

Redglitter · 21/10/2018 17:31

Saying she kidnapped your car is a very odd way of wording it. YANBU to be furious. I be pointing out the damage to her family. The very least she should be doing is paying for any repair. I'd also be pointing out to her you could have (& still could) reported her to the police

RB68 · 21/10/2018 17:32

Yup send her a bill for the damage - if she moans tell her to claim it on her insurance. Of course she won't have any, if she doesn't pay I would go via moneyclaim online or similar to get it paid back

Flatwhite101 · 21/10/2018 17:36

She would not likely be insured for any damage to your car. The usual for being insured to drive others' cars with their permission is 3rd party only as far as am aware.

GemmeFatale · 21/10/2018 17:37

Ask her to cover the cost of the damage and the petrol.

Was she insured? If not you can easily hand it to the police. Nice easy conviction of driving without insurance for them there, Costa will almost certainly have her face and the license plate on camera.

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SerenDippyEggs · 21/10/2018 17:42

Yes, the car is damaged and she is insured on her parents' cars but doesn't have her own car. My smileys are broken so if my replies come across arsey I'm not meaning to be blunt! I am going to text her later when my friend and I have had dinner together and ask for the cost of the damage to be repaired (Even though my car isn't fancy! It's sooo old) and also pay for my car to be cleaned I think as she seems to have driven it through a shitload of mud and damp leaves!

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Original poster
SerenDippyEggs · 21/10/2018 17:42

And yes kidnapping probably wasn't the best way to word it!

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 21/10/2018 17:45

It's TWOC-king (taking without owner's consent)

ButchyRestingFace · 21/10/2018 17:46

@ButchyRestingFace she's 24, I am 26. I have told my friend who is furious but at the same time I can see why she wouldn't get too involved as they live under the same roof due to circumstances they can't change at the moment

Tell her parents. They might not be able to do anything - I would expect them to offer to pay for repairs assuming they can afford it if their daughter won't. You might not want to accept money from them, and fair enough. But I'd be telling them.

And don't ever be tempted to take the family silver over to her place.

Missingstreetlife · 21/10/2018 17:46

Taken without owners consent. It is an offence and so is driving without insurance. Bitch

mumsastudent · 21/10/2018 17:48

& what if madam parked in a non parking zone??? anybody any ideas how to overcome this problem arrives?

Eliza9917 · 21/10/2018 17:51

What damage has she done to the car?

StrangeLookingParasite · 21/10/2018 17:52

It's not really kidnapping. More just theft.

OhDearGodLookAtThisMess · 21/10/2018 17:55

Did she chuff "only pop to Costa!"

NotANotMan · 21/10/2018 17:57

She's not insured on your car then. Unbelievable.

OhDearGodLookAtThisMess · 21/10/2018 17:57

And not all insurance companies insure their clients for 3rd party cover on other vehicles. My dc's doesn't for a start. So, she was quite possibly breaking even more laws.

Yambabe · 21/10/2018 17:57

If she's insured on her parents' car as a named driver it's unlikely that she has any cover to drive other vehicles, that would usually only apply to the actual policy-holder. (DH is named on mine but only I get cover to drive other vehicles).

She's an irresponsible idiot and needs to pay for the repair and a valet.

I did think when I saw the thread that it was a typo and it was going to be about a cat though Grin

NotANotMan · 21/10/2018 17:58

She'd only be insured to drive other vehicles if she had her own insurance policy, which she doesn't

BlueThursday · 21/10/2018 17:59

Report her for TWOC

Who’s to say you won’t get a parking or speeding fine through the door in a weeks time?

Poloshot · 21/10/2018 17:59

She won't have been insured to drive your car if she is a named driver on another insurance

diddl · 21/10/2018 18:01

What an awful situation.

You had told the mum that she could move it-so why didn't she?

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