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Husband's sleep habits?

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CryingOverSpiltMilk · 21/10/2018 11:52

Husband is a teacher, he sleeps from around 11pm to 6.30am every day then 11pm to 7.30/8am at weekends. I know this is not enough sleeping but we're both not sleeping much, the 11pm sleep time is based on DD not going to bed until 9pm due to a sleep regression and I'm up on and off breastfeeding recently due to a massive growth spurt she's having at the moment too. DH will regularly fall asleep at 10pm on a Friday or Saturday and then any time we get together of a daytime at the weekend if ever we're at home and DD is napping he just takes himself off to sleep.

AIBU to feel completely unsatisfied in the fact we get so little time together and the time we do he falls asleep but I manage perfectly fine up during the night with night feeds and working full time?

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Seaweed42 · 21/10/2018 12:00

Your DH seems to get plenty of sleep at nighttime. Why would you get up at 7.30 at weekends if you don't need to? Can one of you take turns to stay in bed for an extra hours sleep on a Sat and Sun morning?
Is your DH overweight, does he snore a lot? Does he take exercise. If so he could have sleep apnea and therefore is going to be very tired during the day. If he's getting 7 or 7.5 hours a night it's odd that he is wanting to sleep during the day. Unless he's always been like that.
Also remember, when your DD is a little older, she may be going to bed at 7pm or so for a few years so things won't always be like it is these past couple of weeks.

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AjasLipstick · 21/10/2018 12:12

Not everyone wants to or even can lie in bed on weekends. I certainly can't. I wake up the same time as I do in the week...and feel gross if I stay put.

Some people cope less well on less sleep OP....I can't deal with broken nights at all but my DH is fine and functions the same as usual. If I get woken up in the night, I am horribly tired the next day.

You can't be annoyed at him for wanting his sleep. You're not unreasonable to feel unhappy at no time with him but this is what it's like....when your child's older, if you're lucky, they will go to bed at 7.30 and that will be more time.

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TheStoic · 21/10/2018 12:15

That sounds like a normal, healthy amount of sleep to me. Do you think he’s sleeping too much?

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Lazypuppy · 21/10/2018 12:24

That's a nirnal amount of sleep at night...whats the problem?

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CryingOverSpiltMilk · 22/10/2018 22:12

Thank you, I thought it was enough sleep. He sometimes stays up late where he procrastinates all evening avoiding doing certain household chores but we've agreed that's his own doing. We've often talked about a possible sleep disorder due to his snoring and his tiredness but he is also (by his own admission) lazy by default so it's hard to tell.

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Purplelion · 23/10/2018 07:29

It’s just life! OH and I take turns having lie ins at the weekend, sometimes one of us with have a nap, not because we have a sleep disorder but because we are busy, working people with 2 children and sometimes need some more sleep!

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Teacupsandtoast · 23/10/2018 08:36

He gets 7.5 hours sleep on a week day and 8/9 on a weekend? Boohoo, poor thing! Honestly if he's falling asleep it's because he's lazy/not doing anything interesting enough to keep him awake, he's getting more than enough sleep!

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