Babysitting, how late is reasonable?

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I want to go home! Sitting for a friend. Battery on phone about to die so no idea why I’m posting. We didn’t agree a time, I expected she’d be back by midnight, later seems rude. Aibu?

Where has she gone? It is Saturday night.

Birthday do in the village. I know I’m probably bu. I’m so bored!

Yabu 12 isn't exactly overly late unless she's Cinderella. It probably ends at 12 or half 12 so she will be back soon.

It would of been rude to arrange a time and not be back by then, you/parent or guardian didn't arrange a time so why would you just expect them to show up at midnight.

I think you would expect her home by now. She’s probably having a good night and not noticed the time, hope she’s back soon!

Didn’t you agree a time in advance?

We always give a rough eta to babysitters.

Fair enough, when would bu?

I don’t know but I’m usually back by about 10pm, latest is about 1045pm but I will tell the nanny way in advance.

I certainly regularly babysat till 2 am in my teens. But the time was discussed in advance!

your fault for not asking till what time.

Kind of depends on the birthday occasion -meal out with friends - should have been home by now

Party at a venue or house - probably later - although should have given you an idea of time she'd be back

I think that if they aren’t far away and you don’t have too far to go to get home then they might consider 1am ok. (Sorry)

I’m really surprised that if they planned to be later than 12pm they didn’t warn you though.

I hope they left you nice biscuits!

Why not use the last of your phone battery to text and ask her when you can expect her..? FWIW she should have told you when you could expect her.

I've had this before OP.

Worst time was a friend was later back than she said and her heating was on timer and had gone off and the house was FREEZING.

Tried to ring her to ask how to switch it on again but could't get hold of her.

It was a painful evening!

I expect your friend has a phone charger lying around, TBH. Unless she's apple and you're android or vice versa.

Have a nap on the sofa :o

Tbh if I was babysitting for someone going out on a Saturday night and hadn't agreed a return time then I'd expect them to be home between 12/1am and would be fine staying up till then though I am a night owl and am regularly up till now anyway

If it was going to be out and leave DD with a babysitter till any time past 12/1am then I'd firstly clear it with the babysitter but would also leave them (or at least tell them where they are stored) blankets and pillows and would make it clear that I didn't expect them to stay up till I returned and they were more than welcome to go to sleep especially as DD10 is a super heavy sleeper so only needs a babysitter so that there's an adult in the house

If your friend isn't back by 1am I'd be grabbing a blanket and snoozing on the sofa till they come home.

2am

In my own bed now just the small matter of my neighbours radio being still on loud enough to be really annoying who needs sleep on a Saturday though?!