To want time on my own?!

[Happyinheels]

Been seeing this guy about a year. He lives about an hour away from me. We both have kids. Our childfree weekends now fall in line and as such we get those weekends together. This week has been a really difficult week for me personally and this weekend I just wanted to stay at mine and have some space without my own kids around, just to do stuff like sorting and pottering and enjoying having the house to myself. He has gone mad. It's been an awful weekend. In fact he's been hard work all week. Surely I'm entitled to some time and space?! He says I've ruined HIS weekend... I feel so tired of it all and think to myself I'd be better single!

FFS, YEAH you WOULD be better off alone than that fucking nobhead.

'Going mad' coz you DARE to want a weekend to yourself.

Red flags flashing like beacons.

I would tell him to fuck off to the far side of fuck and never come back.

The hills are that way >>>

Your last line says it all.

Sorry he's being an arse.

First line was meant to say 'you'd be better off alone than WITH that fucking nobhead!'

yanbu.

He’s a cock nostril

@LavendarGreen 😂 love it! Just what I needed to hear 😂 Fab response!
Honestly I'm really pissed off about it. In a year his boys have been to my house twice! Only 1 of those was to stay over.
I feel like he's hasn't been understanding about the really crap week I've had with my ex creating massive issues with the kids. I've been walking on egg shells all week with him. I just needed a break and breathing space!

Thank you @LongSummerDays

You are absolutely entitled to time on your own when you need it. If this man doesn't understand that then you shouldn't be with him. Is there any particular reason this weekend is important to him? Don't be brow beaten at this stage, or at any stage, you'll regret it. He'll expect to be able to control your behaviour in the future. YANBU.

Hmmm I reckon he is pissed off because he was looking forward to sex and your emotional needs don't come into it...

I think he’s unfair to go so crazy. One weekend alone will do you good to re-charge and he should respect that. Do you find him controlling in other ways? Happy as long as everything’s going his way?

@nomoremrsniceguy no there wasn't anything particularly special about this weekend really. I know he will have been looking forward to spending time together but his reaction is so OTT. I hear you and I do have some concerns about how he's been this week...

@RandomMess 🤷🏻‍♀️ what can I say? My sexual prowess goes before me?! 😂

@Maelstrop yep, just little things. Likes to tell me how it is. How I don't acknowledge why he's pissed off, how it's all about me... And if I use his own words when he's pulling me up then oh I'm the worst GF ever!

Ditch him, simple, too much like hard work.

🤣 sounds a bit too much like hard work!

You're welcome @Happyinheels Don't let a fucking MAN organise your life for you! You're not even super serious (not living together yet,) and he is already trying to control you.

On another note...

@Thehop ....

' he's a cock nostril! '

Priceless comment!

@Thehop I missed that comment - so sorry!!! Oh fantastic word - I'm going to try and get it into a conversation tomorrow!

@LavendarGreen I hear you. After being married for nearly 20 years it's taking me some adjusting and I find myself wondering if it's me?
And that's just it, I can't see us being able to live together till the kids are older as we both have shared care of our kids with our exes. Anyway, as I said, his kids have only actually been to my house a couple of times in a year!

Reading your further comments makes me think I'm right. Pay attention to that nagging doubt. Cut your losses, he's not worth it. Good luck