So my mother was on holiday and hasn't seen her grandkids for a week, dur normally makes the effort to come and see them once-twice a week after school when partner is at work. I am close to my mother and always have been but my partner finds her annoying and avoids her. Anyway I txt and asked my partner if I cud take tge kids swimming Sunday am with my mother as she had asked and offered to pay. My partner kicked off saying I was selfish weekends are family time, he only sees them evenings and weekends. I said we would only be hour and half and wud have most the day as a family before we go his families house. Thing is some weekends he doesn't bother with the kids and we sit in or he wants to go out as a family, or he goes out to watch footy alone or with one of the kidd... It all seems to be based on how he feels and what he wants to do. I didn't think I was bring unreasonable it is a rare thing that I go do my own thing or take the kids off alone.... Am i being selfish?