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Ex asking me to buy a Halloween outfit

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skye33 · 20/10/2018 13:33

AIBU to be annoyed my ex ( who has been consistently nasty and obstructive since we split 2 half years ago ) who is having our DD for all of half term which covers Halloween has asked that I buy a new outfit for her. He does pay maintenance through the CSA as was only way I could get any money, however I feel that if he has her for 9 days over Halloween it is up to him to take her out to buy an outfit. We never pack clothes for her visits as he’s always insisted she wear the clothes etc he has for her at his house. He earns £75000 a year plus additional income from investments and I’m a single mum working part time to fit in with school hours. He now sending me messages saying I should use the maintenance to go and buy her an outfit. It’s not the money I can pick her up an outfit for £5 but feel he should do it as he has chosen to be spending the half term and Halloween week with her.

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JennyOnAPlate · 20/10/2018 13:35

He needs to buy the outfit if he wants her to have one.

Willow789 · 20/10/2018 13:35

I think if he's taking her out for Halloween and wants her to dress up the he should buy the outfit. Maintenance isn't for fancy dress, it's for food, school uniform etc.

GreenLantern53 · 20/10/2018 13:36

doesnt she have one already??

PinkHeart5914 · 20/10/2018 13:37

Blimey he is tight!

Laureline · 20/10/2018 13:38

He should buy it.

Does he expect you to also be the sole provider of fun stuff (Christmas, birthday, etc)?

Alfie19 · 20/10/2018 13:43

I would simply tell him you won’t be buying the costume ad the maintenance is earmarked for other essential items. End of.

AdaColeman · 20/10/2018 13:49

Don't respond.
Don't buy any fancy-dress.

skye33 · 20/10/2018 14:24

Yes exactly not buying it and it be honest she’d love to go choose something with him be fun for her. Unfortunately I did respond should have just ignored him and just not bought one.

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hibbledibble · 20/10/2018 14:46

It's a rediculous thing to be fighting about, so best to just rise above it: either buy the outfit or ignore him.

LaurieFairyCake · 20/10/2018 14:50

If she's already gone I'd say 'too busy now, away for a week - have fun!'

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