To tell NDN about daughters loud sex!!!!!

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I am a lurker here but I really really need sone advice and know I'll get told straight up if this woukd be unreasonable......

Our NDN daughter is 21 and a month or so ago we were all in bed when we heard her having sex(our bedrooms back on to one another) I wish I was joking when I say it was loud. Bed banging off the wall and dramatic screaming. It was funny and horrendous at the same time. It went on and on and got worse to the point my DH had to say something to them.....Well he banged on the wall shouting shut the fuck up!!!

Last I heard it until tonight.....9 year old DS was in our bedroom watching TV and it starts. Put me clean off my dinner tbh. I took him downstairs but I am FUMING!!!! It is far from quiet.

My AIBU is would it be wrong to have a quiet word with her mum? Obviously parents aren't home when this is hapoening. And I don't want my son being subjected to the howling!!!! We don't have the best relationship with them as it is and it's bloody awkward and embarrassing to go and speak to the daughter but I think it's bloody awful having to listen to it and I'm fucking dreading going to my bed.

Should I say something to them, her mum or do I just put up with it and say nothing?

Is this a normal noise to hear???? Never heard anything like it before. FML

I’d talk to the daughter - she’s an adult, why would you go to her mum? If she’s old enough to have sex, she’s old enough to have a conversation about it.

🤣🤣🤣🤣 if i was 21 still living at home is say opps sorry that was me.... but unfortunately I am not 21....... and do not live at my parents

I'm all seriousness could you mayne catch the daughter and have a quiet word it will be really embarrassing but imagine being told off by your parents for having noisy sex

Dam phone being a twat sorry about typos

If the daughter is 21 then I think you should have a conversation with her some how. Btw brace yourself for stories bout how people had 17 houses and 17 kids at age 21 ans had lived alone since they were 12. I hear my upstairs neighbour having sex every now and then, I wouldn’t dream of saying anything but I’d it was constant maybe I’d change my mind!

At 21 she's an adult. Why would you 'tell' on her by going to her Mum instead of having a word with her directly? Just ask her to keep it down.

@daphneduwarrior yeah this is why I'm thinking I shouldnt and should approach her. Just thought after us going mental last time she woukd have reigned it in a bit!!!

Speak to the daughter rather than her mother.

Talk to the daughter. We're currently trying to conceive number 3. And after a rough few months I really threw myself into enjoying it and trying new stuff and my neighbour pulled me the other day and said can you keep the jiggy jiggy down ... I am embarrassed now beyond words every time I see her. I honestly didn't think anyone would hear . But if it was the other way round I wouldn't like it either so defo tell her to tone it down 🤦🏽‍♀️

It's the fact her bed is against my wall. The "bang" actually fucking bangs 😂😂😂

can you keep the jiggy jiggy down

😂😂 say that!

YES 😂😂 that would keep it light rather than me fuming 😂😂

I am having the same problem with tenants next door to me. Honestly, it is absolutely disgusting and makes me feel ill. It’s not great when it’s happening late at night and you have to be up early to go to work! I totally sympathise.

I'm so nervous to do it though!! Coz on a serious note it's bloody awful and the first time it stopped then started stopped started Couldn't deal 😂😂😂

Definitely don't talk to the mum!!! Why would you🤷‍♀️

I would just bang on the wall a few times and see if they get the hint. If they don't then talk to her or if you don't want to do it to her face maybe pop a note through? Obviously in an envelope

I'd just bang loudly on the wall, every single time I hate confrontation

Start shouting scores at them afterwards, a loud "5 out of 10, could do better" might be embarrassing enough to stop them

I hate confrontation. When I was young and lived in a flat I dropped a letter through the door "We don't want to hear you having sex, please keep the noise down". It's easier in flats as it's more anonymous.

Surely if you bang on the wall straight away each time they'll turn it down? Did they stop last time you knocked the wall and shouted?

Ok....I've gathered I shouldnt talk to the mum which is why I asked, just to get some perspective so I won't.

But yip hate confrontation 100%

Aargh why does she have to scream blue murder!!! Is he really hitting the spot 🙈🙈🙈🙈

Yeah they stopped last time which is why j thought we maybe wouldn't hear it again.....

He’s probably not hitting the spot and she might be shouting to make him feel better 😂 that’s my theory, anyway!

@FrazzyAndFrumpled it was the worst phrase she could of said to me as that made it even worse somehow 

But yes say that and hopefully it'll work  lol