So Ive made alot of life altering decisions recently and have cut afew FM out of my life. Back story is ive 3 DC, youngest is Autistic and i have 0 time to myself.
I have so little time to see people, i just couldnt fit everyone in. My DF has a strange wife, she has always seen me as a threat? When i was 11, she treated me badly, even blaming me for her miscarrige. ( she'd taken an overdose which caused the loss ). Its alot to deal with when your 11, BUT i just wanted to see my dad and spend time with him. Of course the more times i visited, the harder she made it for me. In my 20's i continued dutifully to visit every month and put up with her nastiness. I have a SS and HS who are perfect and of course im the black sheep. Ive never asked for anything, ive been a good DD, bought nice gifts etc ( i got out of date gift vouchers for my 18th )
Tbh i got very sick of my DF putting my SM and SS on a pedestal, its got me down over the years, ive not had an easy life and havnt ever bn able to turn to them, ask for a favour etc. 2 years ago, i decided to just turn away and remove them from my life. It was made clear to me that my kids wernt important, they dont want to see youngest with Autism as hes distructive. Afew months ago, DF turned up at my house and yelled at me, asking what my problem was. It was scary, and made my kids cry...SM was in the car with a nasty smirk on her face, she had clearly put 50p in my dad and wound him up.
Is it wrong to remove people from your life? She is toxic, I did try a while ago just to see DF, and it wasnt allowed as the phone calls she made ruined the visit.
Would you try and make it up with them, or continue without them. Lifes been alot easier without SM and her crazy games. Ps, Shes Psycic, (or says she is) I hope she doesnt see this or she eill be making a Voodoo doll of me!