Before we had kids I moved to a new city because of his work. At the time this meant changing my career path somewhat and limiting my opportunities to some extent. It took me quite a long time to settle in but now I like it here & have a few friends. I started a Doctorate which I'm nearly finished but we now have a 3 year old and a new baby due early next year. I've worked really hard at this, particularly doing most of it without childcare and being at home almost full-time. I am determined that I want to make something of my qualifications once i have them, although I know this won't be easy with 2 kids to consider. Our issue is the fact that we are renting in the city and the situation for renters is quite precarious. We were approved for a mortgage but only for an amount which could afford us a house very far out of the city in a rural location. We could do this, and we would then be close to my husbands family, own our own home and be more settled for the children. However I would be even further from my family, friends, college and job potential. I also don't particularly like the countryside, having grown up in the city. Certain people have hinted that I'm being a bit unreasonable, wanting to "have my cake and eat it" living in the city when we can't afford it and sacrificing my family's security in the short term. They say rural living is ideal for kids. From my side, I don't want to rush into relocating when I've worked hard at settling in here and I also want to keep my job options as open as possible for when I finish my studies. However with a new baby due I won't be able to even start looking for a job until mid-next year and even then i'll have to think about childcare costs and so forth. I feel pushed to living in a location I don't particularly like...but people say I'm mad...Husband says he will do whatever makes me happy (bless him) AIBU? Thanks!