Being horrible to DP.

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I don't know why I'm posting to be honest. I'm not looking for sympathy, maybe a kick up the arse?

I'm currently 25 weeks pregnant with a much wanted and planned for baby. We've had a roller coaster of complications with this pregnancy, and it's still not 100% that our baby will make it, although the prognosis is a million times better than it was.

That being said, as stressed as I am, I cannot seem to keep myself from constantly sniping at my partner. It sounds like an excuse, but it's like an uncontrollable urge, and I am literally continuously picking at everything he does or doesn't do, and going way over the top with nasty, horrible things to say to him. He sometimes tries to sit and talk to me about how it makes him feel, however his upset only seems to make me enraged.

I am normally a completely loving person, we almost never normally argue, I'd even go as far to say we probably sicken most people with how loving we are. I feel like I'm losing my mind, and when he's at work or out I miss him an unbearable amount, but as soon as he walks back through the door, I'm compulsively moaning, sniping and whinging at him.

I don't know what to do :(

Show this post or say what you have written here to him.

Problem solved

Hopefully with some time your mood will improve

Write to him. You've managed to write here.

You're in a stressful situation so it's understandable you can feel snipy but I'm not of the belief that you can take it out on your DP, just because he's "there".

It must make him feel like shit too. Putting the key in the door, entering his home and being subjected to sniping and horrible remarks.. Nobody would like it and he's letting you know how it makes him feel.

Take 10 seconds to think before you speak. We know when we are being hurtful, and can take a deep breath and control it mostly, with effort.

If it's an argument not worth angling for and will make the atmosphere horrible afterwards, then actively train yourself not to do it.

Good luck with baby

Tell him you know you're being a shit. Tell him now. Apologise and admit you'll probably keep doing it, but please to not take it personally.

Maybe you are pushing away because dealing with your own feelings about the pregnancy /dc is hard atm without dealing with him /his also?
Remembering you are a team and in this parenting lark together is important. Can you plan a few things to do together before the arrival?

I've told him. I've cried, he's cried, I've told him I know it's not acceptable, and it's disgusting and vile. I don't know if I should maybe just try and not speak at all, as I don't seem capable of being nice.

I feel so awful, he's such a good man, and although he has bitten back a few times, for the most part he's bitten his lip and ignored my comments, which in the heat of the moment only makes me angrier and angrier. I feel like such a shitty person.