What sentence changed your life? (part 2)

[yawning801]

I loved the old thread so I decided to start a new one. Please tell me if there is a part 2 already!!

And whilst writing that title, I realised it could be mistaken for meaning a life sentence.

"Im sorry mummy"

Her father had assaulted me again in front of her because her and our 8 month old baby were crying. She heard him going mad about the crying and thought it was her fault.

I will never ever forget that. I told her i was sorry, it wasnt her fault and i promised her that was the last time shed ever see anything like that ever again. That was 16 months ago and thanks to a guilty conviction hes not allowed near me or my children again. He can try to get contact with the children via family court or social services but hasnt so far. 7 years i lived that life with him. My babies were 2.6 and 8 months old when i finally got the courage to move areas and cut contact with everyone

Bumping for the evening crowd, I'm so sorry you had to go through that Buey

@yawning801 well done for starting this 

“The tear has shown negative so I can send you to have an ultrasound but there’s no point, just go home”

By a callous nurse when I lost my first much wanted pregnancy at 7 weeks. I went home and wasn’t given any other advice on what to do

*test

When someone shows you who they are believe them! By Maya Angelou, helped me to realise I was in an abusive marriage. Thank you Maya.

There are two sentences for me.

"The world owes you absolutely fuck all." Said to me by a much wiser friend when I was whinging about getting a decent job cos I had a degree an all and employers should be aware what a bloody star I was. Made me actually stop and think and stop being so entitled.

When I had awful anxiety and it was stopping me from doing anything, a HCP told me that all the time I spent anxious and depressed, I'd never get back. She also described anxiety as a "time stealer". Now, for some that probably would have been stunningly insensitive but I ended up really thinking about it and finally went to my GP for a CBT referral. Sometimes my anxiety flares up but I feel I can better control it now.

'You're not you when you're with him, you've changed ' said to me by my adult daughter when I started seeing her father 24 years after I left him - she was right and he went on to emotionally abuse me for 3 years - I lost myself massively and would give anything to go back in time and listen to her

"I'm afraid there are suspicious areas in both breasts". I was 36 and had given birth to DC3 8 weeks earlier. 5 years later, I'm boobless but my hair has grown back and DD has just started school.

You do realise you had a stroke, this was a week after my 56 Birthday

Today

'im sorry you are not a suitable candidate for surgery'

to everyone

Phone call - “I’m so sorry GlitterFairy, I don’t know how to say this but your DB is dead”.

Utterly devastating and life changing. DB has taken his own life. True to say life has never been the same again.

On a happier note - “will you marry me” by now DH!
to all

Said to me today:
"I accept all parts of you."

'After reviewing the footage, we've decided not to take your allegation any further'

A policewoman to 16 year old me, after plucking up the courage to report my boss for sexual harassment. They had one piece of cctv evidence from when the abuse started, before my boss wised up and never did anything where there was a camera watching. The evidence they had was of him lying on top of me as I waited for him to cash up one night, but they decided it wasn't enough. They threw the whole thing out, my statement of countless different times he'd behaved inappropriately on that. I spent years thinking I'd got the whole thing wrong, I'd misunderstood him. I felt so awful for him for going to the police, I thought I'd ruined his life and that he'd be furious and come after me. It really changed me as a person.

'Oh return to me, for I have paid the price to set you free'

I had asked my mum who was on the phone.
"it was my Macmillan nurse"
That's how I found out she had cancer.

This is a bit mushy and not how it's intended but when I read this thread literally "Hey how are you doing?" popped into my head - the first sentence of the message my DH-in-2-weeks sent to me on POF.

He's completed transformed my life. Went from scraping by with no money and a DP who didn't love me and subsequently left me heartbroken and a single mother to living the most amazing life. Amazing house, holidays, not having to worry about money and genuinely being loved and wanted. It's incredible.

for the PP on this thread

onlyonce

I hope you have RL support xx

Thank you crispysausagerolls. Actually made me cry reading your post. Parents being amazing. Dp didnt even ask how the appointment was when I phoned him earlier but I don't expect anything from him now. Stuck on a train so I might find some coffee and chocolate to cheer myself up

@Onlyonce 

Sorry the flowers I attached for you @Onlyonce didn't appear. I'll try again here, but sorry if they don't show again. 💐 🌷 🌹 💐

Thank you sonandhelpneeded.

"You are an athlete".

Said to me by a personal trainer. I was several stones overweight and had a baby and toddler at the time. I told her she was being ridiculous. After about 3 weeks, I realised she was right, so I started exercising and losing weight. I haven't looked back!

"We're clearing ten hours of theatre time immediately but you're otherwise healthy so you'll be home in a few days." Said by a surgeon who very nearly killed me (he's admitted negligence.) It has left me with a life threatening condition, since requiring two major operations that I'd have died within hours if I hadn't received them with long stays in ICU.