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AIBU?

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to be fed up with DPs mood?

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SuperBrandy · 18/10/2018 22:30

I went to the hospital today to see my consultant and decide on a date to induce DC. All sorted and happy that baby will be here soon.

I'm quite scared as haven't had a baby before and am nervous about having an induction and it all going tits up.

He knows this and I've explained how I'm feeling to him. I've also asked him how he's feeling too. He seems okay.

Today I bought a gift for his DD, I cleaned the house, cooked him dinner, bought a load of tiny baby newborn clothes for our DC as they're going to be early, washed his clothes for him. Etc. I don't usually do this much and he does usually help out but I figured whilst I'm nesting and on maternity leave I may as well get some bits done.

He's been in a grump since he got home. Keeps going on about as long as there's nothing wrong with the baby he's happy. Not worried about me in the slightest. No hug. No 'are you okay?' or 'how do you feel?'. I feel like something is off and I'm tiptoeing around him. He does get like this from time to time but I really could've used a bit of support today. I got none.

AIBU to think that if you were given an induction date (having not known previously that induction was even on the cards!), and finding out baby isn't coping too well, and that your partner is extremely anxious and worried, you'd be a bit more supportive/present?

I'm aware he may have his own worries that he doesn't want to open up about and I wish he would. I just tried so hard to make sure he's okay tonight and have had nothing in return.

Sad :(

OP posts:
Godimsounimaginative · 19/10/2018 07:57

Sounds like he's really worried and doing that man thing where you have to be big and hard and not show fear then everything will be fine.
Just explain to him that you understand he's nervous but that he doesn't have to keep anything bottled up, you're a team and you'd be a lot less stressed if you talked about it together and if he supported you because you're worried about yourself as well as baby and you should really be keeping yourself as relaxed as possible so baby doesn't get stressed too.
Good luck to you all

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