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AIBU?

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Moving in together?

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Xjqcgwes · 18/10/2018 17:38

Having been together a few years now, we're talking about moving in together early next year.

He lives alone in a small rented place. I own my own house where I live with teenagers (1 at uni but living at home, 1 at 6th form college).

The simplest solution would be for him to move in here however as I bought this house with my XH, he feels uncomfortable and wants to live somewhere more neutral. His suggestion is we rent somewhere local, and I rent out my house. Financially I should be no worse off as my house should rent out for about £300 a month more than the sort of place we're hoping to rent, plus DP will obviously be contributing to the rental cost.

This is only going to be for a couple of years to give us time to be sure living together works for us, if it does I'll either sell or remortgage my house to buy some where wirh DP.

Is this a good idea or AIBU? I have mixed feelings about leaving my house and renting it out but equally it seems less of a gamble than just selling now and buying somewhere else...

I should add we're looking in a slightly more rural area than we live now, but only slightly, about 10-15 mins from where we are now. This is closer to 6th form and DPs work but will be a longer journey for me and for eldest at uni. However it is only for a couple of years.

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Merryoldgoat · 18/10/2018 17:42

I think that sounds like a good plan - your security isn’t compromised, he won’t have a claim on your property and you’ll have a fresh start together.

donajimena · 18/10/2018 17:46

I do think that is a good solution. One that many more should try in my opinion.

Boredboredboredboredbored · 18/10/2018 17:48

Do you think it's a good idea? My partner of a year moved in with me and my teenage dc recently. I wouldn't consider leaving my home as it's my dc home that they love. If you feel it will work for you and your dc go for it.

Xjqcgwes · 18/10/2018 17:54

I am apprehensive but I think that's because it would be a big change. I've always known that at some point we would buy a place together so it's not like I saw myself living in this house forever.

I can also see it does make sense to be some where neither of us have any attachment to.

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Xjqcgwes · 18/10/2018 20:26

I think my main worry is ending up with tenants who trash my house. I have heard so many horror stories from friends who rent out properties.

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