To suggest no Christmas presents for the adults?

[MrsMouse03]

It's that time of year when family start asking "what do you want for Christmas?" We end up racking our brains for suggestions and they do the same. I have said why don't we all put money in for a really nice meal out or weekend away together. Is that being miserable?

Not at all! With my siblings, we have declared no gifts for adults this year, and we're not even doing the meal out or weekend away, we're just buying for kids. On a material basis this is unfair, two of us have two kids, one has one kid, and the other has no kids. However, the suggestion came from the one with no kids, he has insisted that he and his gf are totally happy with this arrangement, and to be honest it's making Christmas shopping massively easier!

No presents for adults every time

Haha this is us.

This year we're doing a £100 secret Santa. So everyone gets one decent present but we have to include the receipt just in case it's shit and we want to exchange.

We have a no adults present rule between some of DHs family and us. We buy for parents and under 16s.

DH has 3 siblings plus their wives/husbands. We buy for the 5 nieces/nephews but 'no adults' means 6 less presents to afford and they don't have to buy for us. Three of our children are over 16 (early 20s in fact) but the little one is only 4. Aunts and uncles only buy for our 4 year old and our older ones are totally fine about it. (And relieved because they don't have to reciprocate).

On my side i'm an only child from two only children parents with only DM left so no big issue.

I have a few adult dc, they were going to go np (no present) but I have bullied them into a £10 gift!! We have no other family though so not many gifts as it is!
Never too old to like unwrapping imo!!
Don't blame others who do np as some people have hoards of family!

Oh I would love to do this. Or easy gifts like a book each - no pressure. I don't really want anything! In laws though...MIL loves a show Christmas.

We all just do secret Santa on both sides of our families - makes for a much less stressful Christmas!

I think this makes perfect sense. A nice night out will be fun and a chance to catch up. A genuinely thoughtful present you know someone might not think to buy for themselves is always lovely, but more often than not the reality is a desperate trawl around Marks a couple of days before Christmas. Just enjoy yourselves instead!

When I used to have contact with all my family we used to do it the other way round as all the kids already got loads so we just bought for the adults only. I don’t speak to them now though and it was my idea, so maybe it wasn’t such a good one

You know what EndeavourVoyage i've never thought of that (no kids presents).

Our DD4 is drowned in presents by DH and I, her adult sisters and the GPs. And Santa! She doesn't need her Aunties and Uncles to buy for her as well.

Not sure how well that suggestion would go down though ...