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Fuming!

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wishchief · 18/10/2018 11:26

Morning all

I need to vent!! I have two boys in primary school and two year old twin boys. Today was school photographs and they invited the younger siblings in at 8.30am so they could all be in a photo together. I Got them all ready and smartly dressed and arrived in the school hall on time. There was already abit of a queue so me and the boys joined the back. After a while as more people started arriving the lady on the door said we're going to start taking them from the right hand side as its getting quite busy. So we just stayed where we were in the queue. Then i noticed some people who had just turned up just went straight over to the right and to the front of the queue!
This wasn't a problem until it got to about 3 people in front of us, by this point the twins were getting bored and started playing up.
By the time it was our turn they had had enough and wouldn't sit (or stand) to have their photo taken. So i was pretty pissed off that we had waited all that time (about 45 mins) for nothing. My two older dc had theirs done but they would of had that anyway, i just wanted one nice photo of them all together. I went to the school office and she said theres nothing they can do as the photographer now had allocated time slots with all the classes. I'm now wondering whether to see the head teacher about the shambles way it was done or am i just being petty? My husband said we can just book a photo shoot elsewhere but thats not the point as we'd stood there waiting for nothing

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GreenLantern53 · 18/10/2018 11:29

people will say yabu but i would be annoyed aswell tbh!

Houseonahill · 18/10/2018 11:35

The organisation does sound shit and is be pissed off too but I don't think it's worth complaining to the school about.

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wishchief · 18/10/2018 11:39

Thanks for your reply i was just so mad as now i'm thinking yeah people who just pushed in have got their sibling photo of their kids and me who was on time haven't. Now it does seem abit petty but it did upset me. Oh well theres always nextyear i suppose

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CluedoAddict · 18/10/2018 11:42

Could you ring up and see if they would do it after school? Most school photos are crap any way they are too rushed. We had a shoot at Snappy snaps that wasn't too expensive.

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 18/10/2018 11:44

I feel your pain!

Vent and rant away here then when you’re a bit calmer I’d mention it to school in a proactive ‘how can we improve it for next year’ sort of way.

Sounds awful though. Hope you’re having a nice rest and brew now Brew

flumpybear · 18/10/2018 12:45

I think I'm actually never going to get school photographs again - I'd rather spend more money on a proper shoot - maybe once every other year or so, far nicer and less stressful plus can get the whole family in if you want to

We had some done a few years ago and they're part colour part black and white - so clothes I think were vibrant colours - really tasteful and nice - not boring uniform with unkempt hair

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wishchief · 18/10/2018 13:41

So glad i'm not the only one. Tbh i'm so annoyed with the school now i don't even want a photo from them. I probably won't even buy it, i think i would rather spend the money on a proper photoshoot aswell flumpybear. I am definitely going to book one. I am still going to mention it to the school now ive calmed down as this problem also occurs when its the christmas play etc you get a few certain people who turn up 5 minutes before and go straight to the front when everyone else has been stood outside for ages and has to sit at the back

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RiverTam · 18/10/2018 13:43

I think you're better off booking something yourself. DD's school it's just for the kids at school, no additional siblings, and it sounds a shambles.

HalloweeninCornwall · 18/10/2018 13:48

I oils be hugely pissed off too, OP.
It takes some effort getting toddler twins up, fed, dressed, etc.
How very lovely of the people turning up later than you not to point out that you had waited for them, and how very thick of the ‘organisers’ not to spot the flaw in their ‘plan’.
Don’t buy the photos.

HalloweeninCornwall · 18/10/2018 13:48

You had been waiting before them

Boyskeepswinging · 18/10/2018 13:49

Did you let the woman on the door know how long you'd been waiting? Don't understand why you let her allow others in front of you when you were there first, or why you didn't tell the late comers to queue up? Confused

Boyskeepswinging · 18/10/2018 13:52

Queue jumping is one of my pet hates and I find a loud and pointed "There is a queue" usually does the trick.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 18/10/2018 13:52

Sounds very disorganised OP, I think I would go with DHs suggestion and get some photos done elsewhere, imo the ones done at school aren't great anyway.

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wishchief · 18/10/2018 14:15

No i didn't Boyskeepswinging by the time i'd realised they were all in front they were having thier photos done or near enough. I wish i had now, there were people infront of me already so they had also jumped infront of them aswell. And by that time i was trying to keep two toddlers and the two boys to behave in the line.
I phoned the school this afternoon and spoke to the head mistress who has apologised and offered if i wanted to go in and have one taken but the twins are asleep now so i just said i'd leave it. Too much hassle!
She even asked if there was a member of staff there organising things? surely she should know that? So now she said she is going to make sure that someone is there in future including the school plays to make sure it doesn't happen again, even though she shouldn't have to organise adults. Well clearly her bloody running of the school needs organising.

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Boyskeepswinging · 18/10/2018 14:27

Yes, I thought with all your LO's in tow that mighty have been the case. Unfortunately the Entitled Mummies will always try to take advantage of these situations. Following my usual "There's a queue" comment once one actually said to me "I don't queue" to which I replied "You do now, love". She was too taken aback to do anything other than join said queue. I don't think anyone had ever stood up to her before.
Sounds like the Head needs to realise that managing the parents is as much part of her job as managing the kids.

Eliza9917 · 18/10/2018 15:39

wishchief Thu 18-Oct-18 11:39:42
*Thanks for your reply i was just so mad as now i'm thinking yeah people who just pushed in have got their sibling photo of their kids and me who was on time haven't. Now it does seem a bit petty but it did upset me. Oh well theres always next year i suppose@

You should have said something at the time, like 'hold up, there's a queue here!'.

Would have solved the whole problem.

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wishchief · 18/10/2018 16:03

Yeah i know i should of i didn't think the kids were going to play me up so much otherwise i would of done Sad

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