To be really struggling?

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I posted in relationships but not getting any responses so I’m sorry if I’m not allowed to post here too.

I’m really struggling so just looking for any advice at all really! A few weeks ago my partner broke up with me unexpectedly. We had been together for over a decade and I thought things were ok. I’m late twenties with no DC. Within days I discovered he’s moved onto someone new, who he claims he met after we had broken up. Obviously I don’t believe this.

I’m trying to move on, been out with friends and even on a couple of dates but I just feel so lonely and lost. I’m on medication already for so can’t even ask for anti depressants as I’m not allowed to up my dose. I feel constantly sick, can’t sleep, and the thought of returning to work terrifies me.

Everyone tells me time heals and I do believe it but I don’t know what to do to get out of this hole and start moving forward.

I’ve been here and it’s shit. The only thing that helped me, ironically, was going out and being with my friends. Going on holiday or little trips by myself or others. Going on dates, even if I didn’t feel like it. You kind of need to get out of your head and whatever works do it!

This happened to me OP. Awful he was when I look back. I was so devastated I couldn't see the wood for the trees.

It took me a year to recover but I did...and you will too. Don't go on dates yet. There's no rush honestly. Look after yourself. Be with your friends when you want to...try to meet them at least once a week even for coffee.

Think about you and what YOU want from life. Do the things you love doing and take walks as often as possible...get in among green and trees.