To grieve for the spark in my relationship

[GingerSwan]

I have reached that awful point in my relationship where your spark goes out, that giddy happy feeling is just... gone

And even though you know it’s coming when it actually happens it still feels rubbish

In my previous relationships being young and foolish I went from partner to partner chasing this feeling

I want to stay with my DP, make our relationship work, I love him. Potentially even get the spark back if that’s possible?

But aibu to feel like I’m grieving for its absence I feel genuinely very low about the whole thing

YAB a bit unreasonable. There's more to relationships than the spark. The trust and commitment and devotion is way better, but it's different and you need to come to terms with it, so just give yourself a break and think about how those things ultimately mean so much more

Also, the spark comes and it goes. If you pick the right person and they are committed to you and the relationship, then you can emerge from harder times not just intact but stronger than before. I wouldn't say a relationship takes work exactly, but any relationship needs to be treasured.

What do you feel is missing from your current relationship? What feels different?