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People who have made an impact on your life.

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yawning801 · 17/10/2018 17:45

Put this in AIBU because I wanted it to stay.

Who has made an impact on you, and how?
I'll start with my friend. We've only known each other for about a year but she's provided me with so much support (and I have tried to reciprocate), she knows me better than I know myself and despite never actually having met (and being in completely different countries and time zones) we can pretty much tell what each other is thinking. Don't know where I'd be without her.

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Bluelady · 19/10/2018 20:16

No, Don'tcare, she was called Miss Loftus, she never married. Perhaps your Mrs Anderson was her sister!

This thread is making me cry.


The80sweregreat · 19/10/2018 20:18

My very best friend and my dh!


AlphaBravo · 19/10/2018 20:19

One of my best friends. I met him on a night out about 5 years ago. He made me realise it's ok to be me and he always says I've done the same for him. He was living 'straight' and is anything but straight, it was tearing him apart inside until I was the first person he told. I helped him come to terms with who he really was. He helped me emotionally and mentally, more than I can ever say, after my son was born.

He makes me feel like the most beautiful soul whenever I'm around him and it's delicious.


norbert23 · 19/10/2018 20:19

My primary school teacher, she was so kind and nurturing after my mum died at the beginning of ks2 and always made me special jobs and kept an eye on how I was. A thousand small things that added up to feeling truly cared for at a terrible time, all the way until I left at 11. In fact, when I went back at 21 for a placement before I started my PGCE she was still there and was exactly the same. I really should have told her all this! I might do now Smile


SmokeAndBone · 19/10/2018 20:30

A former DP.
He bought me my first proper camera, took me to Scotland for the first time, played me Sandy Denny, was patient and kind.
He died while we were still together, and although my life moved on, he left me a profound legacy. So many of the things I cherish have come from him.

Oh dear. I'm making myself cry now.


LizzieBennettDarcy · 19/10/2018 20:36

My Nan.

I spent so much time with her growing up. She was so proud of her family, and loved her grandchildren and great grandchildren. I'm so sad she never got to meet her great great grandchildren.

I miss her every day but was blessed to have her in my life for 40 + years. She was a huge influence in my life, even more than my mum to be honest.


Raffles1981 · 19/10/2018 21:18

My brother. He taught me how to life each day as if it matters - but only after he died. His humour, his beautiful soul, it all stays with me.

My DP - he sees the best in me, even when I'm self destructing. His patience, wisdom, love for me is unbelievable.

My adoptive mother. She saved me. Stayed by my side even when I was wrong, even when I was breaking.

Love this thread Flowers


Raffles1981 · 19/10/2018 21:19

SmokeAndBone Flowers


WaterOffaDucksCrack · 19/10/2018 21:53

I'm sure people will think this a boring response but my son! Before I found out I was pregnant I was an addict. Totally 100% my choice and my fault but I do think the emotional, physical and sexually abusive relationship I was in was, in a way, a factor. My son was born and my life changed more than I thought possibe. He's 3.5 now, we've just moved in with my boyfriend and his son and I have built a career. Everything I've done has come out of love for him and the strength he's given me. Don't get me wrong being a single parent and dealing with the amount of psychological trauma I had (and still have) has been so challenging. But so so worth it.


springmachine · 19/10/2018 22:19

My soon to be DH who showed me what life should really be like after a terrible time with abusive exh


Allchangehere346 · 19/10/2018 22:25

What a great thread!

My boss who hired me back in 2015, supported me through so many things, including mental health problems, my pregnancy... once at a works do, he drunkenly said tome he felt proud of me - in a paternal way.

I wish I could have say this to him now without me sounding weird and creepy (not been in contact for 2 years) he was the best boss I have boss I ever had. And I think of him often.


DeusEx · 19/10/2018 22:31

A controversial one, but a church leader I knew well when I was in primary school. He inspired in me and my siblings a deep and enduring love of music and of the beautiful and spiritual side of religion. Both have been fundamental to my life, my friends and relationships, and music in particular has given me so many opportunities. He gave me the tools to counter my worst depressive periods - music is a source of confidence and hope for me. He was also there when I faced psychological and emotional abuse from my mother. He was one of the only neutral and understanding adults I knew.

He was convicted several years ago of possession of indecent images. I feel so conflicted - I work in a law related sector, understand well the awful, awful damage done by child porn, and haven’t been in touch since - but it doesn’t negate the way he changed my life.


DeusEx · 19/10/2018 22:32

I hope I haven’t upset anyone by sharing that.

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