Am I breaking the fashion rules of weddings

[Rosskidsmum]

I need help, I don’t know if I’ve massively over thought this now or am I going to be hunted down and killed by the wedding fashion mafia?!
Went shopping for my DF cousins wedding this weekend, as it’s now going to be too warm for the suit I was originally going to wear I have purchased cute checked tan tapered trousers and a cream basic Tshirt to go with paired with tan and cream heels I was happy with my look... then I read that you Cannot wear, cream ivory or white to someone else’s wedding! I would never dream of wearing a cream dress to someone else’s wedding but a tshirt will be ok surely? I’ve been out today and panic purchased a black top and blazer instead, but it really doesn’t look as nice 😞 am I massively over thinking this or are people like to pass comment on my colour choice, I would hate to offend anyone.
Help!

Ttalking about weddings meghan annouced her baby news at eugines wedding
Actually she didnt.
Can we stop all the Meghan bashing now? Its pathetic.

A cream top and beige trousers would upstage the bride? Oh ffs!

Sounds like a lovely outfit, really want to see it!

Meghan and Harry told the main members of the family quietly, it was not a big upstaging announcement. I imagine people there had started to speculate as people did here and they could hardly lie about it.

Mellisastella12345678910
Spill!

as others have said, as long as you dont turn up in a cream white or ivory dress then your good, if youre that worried send a picture of you in the outfit to the bride and ask if she minds you wearing it becuase its a cream top, and the no cream/white/ivory rule. x

It's not going to look 'bridal' so it's fine IMHO.

You won't look bridal. Far from it, don't worry!

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Sounds good to me. Could you add a jazzy statement necklace to break it up a bit?

It’s all from next apart from the shoes, I can’t find the blouse

I was thinking that!

Statement necklace I like the sound of the fidora too

Yeah that isn’t bridal. If anything it might be a little bit casual, but that totally depends on the flavour of wedding.

I love trousers to weddings though. So much more comfortable. Next wedding I go to I want to do the full Cara Delevingne top hat and tails! Don’t think I can pull it off though. I’d make it look bonkers .

It's absolutely fine.

If you're a bride who would mind - have you really nothing better to be doing on one of the best days of your life? Nobody, but nobody will think someone in checkered trousers and a cream satin top is upstaging you.

I genuinely don't understand why it's frowned upon to wear a white dress as a guest. Everyone knows who the bride is! I wouldn't give a shit if a guest wore a white dress to my wedding.

Sorry but I think it will look like you have come straight from work

I don’t get it either nigel, but it’s hust one of those traditions I suppose. Wouldn’t bother me, but it’s equally no skin off my nose NOT to wear white / cream to weddings. So I don’t.

Why should it bother anyone if someone wore something not in keeping with tradition to any place or event? Eg hot pants to the office or to a christening? I mean, why not? No good reason, it just isn’t seen as appropriate.

"Not wearing cream/white/ivory" isn't a tradition though, not at any wedding I've been at, it's just made up by socially awkward, insecure, petit bourgeois posters on MN, probably the same ones who launder their towels and linen daily.

Loads of people wore cream and ivory dresses at my wedding and looked lovely, I was just looking at the photos the other day. I never heard or bothered about it until MN, and I shall continue to ignore it!

"Not wearing cream/white/ivory" isn't a tradition though, not at any wedding I've been at, it's just made up by socially awkward, insecure, petit bourgeois posters on MN, probably the same ones who launder their towels and linen daily.
This Two people wore cream shift dresses to my wedding 19 years ago. Both were totally appropriate.

Nah, I’d heard of no white / cream at weddings a very long time ago. Maybe it depends on the area you live in or your particular friendship group.

Do you also think Halloween is a modern American import and made up holiday by any chance?

And, tbh, even if it is made up by petit bourgeois mumsnetters, (lovely classist phrase you chose there btw - they don’t even use that phrase in Paris anymore), I still won’t risk it personally. It’s no skin off my nose to wear a different colour is it? If someone might not like me wearing it on their wedding day, I tend to steer clear. I don’t care how pwetty my dwess is enough to risk annoying someone.

I didn’t care what anyone wore to my wedding btw, including bridesmaids, but I still have the common sense to wear something other than white at someone else’s wedding. It’s a bit self absorbed to insist that I must wear cream because I want to when it isn’t even my wedding.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.glamour.com/story/can-i-wear-white-to-a-wedding/amp

This is (American) Glamour. If you google “can I wear white to a wedding?”, you’ll find a tonne of articles saying pretty much no. It’s not “just on MN”.

Safe to say it's probably some crap that blew in from the US then.

It would be difficult for me to care less what fashion magazines say. They talk a lot of shit in order to make women feel insecure and sell you stuff.

Ah sorry. Nobody is right but you. I’ll forget I ever had an opinion now. Thank you for correcting me.

Ah balls - name change fail! That^^ was me.

As I’ve already said, I heard of this a long time ago. But think what you like. Wear what you like. I’ll do the same.