When does someone's Instagram post become an invasion of privacy?

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Recently decided to do a part time uni course after more than a decade of being out of school (time flies), and I'm having a hard time working out what's the "norm" with regards to social media and privacy expectations.

I don't personally use Instagram, and have no interest in it. Yesterday though, a mate of mine showed me a post (in a "didn't know you knew this person" context) that one of my group mates posted during our meetup to discuss something related to the course. It was one of those "what we're doing now" 10s clips I guess but in it you can clearly hear and see me in the background talking about something I don't want published! 

Now I'm paranoid about how many of these are "out there" (her account is on private but she's got 5 digits worth of followers). Don't want to ask or anything too because I've still got to work with them for the rest of the sch year and am not keen on coming across as the "mental one".

Would you be bothered by this? Or am I just an old fogey?

It's a tricky one.

On the one hand, you discussed it in a public forum. But if she hadn't had recorded the clip, anything which got out would be hearsay and might not be directly linked to you. But by recording and publishing the recording, it's going to be obvious it's you.

Is there not a rule of what's said in the room stays in the room for your tutorials? Or was this something completely outside of the normal learning environment, eg a group of you arranged to meet and study together in a public place like a library or coffee shop where anyone walking by could have listened.

Either way your classmate could have done everyone the courtesy of asking if it was ok to publish the group conversation. I don't think you'd be unreasonable to let them know you've been made aware of this and it's information you would rather wasn't shared outside the wider group. Could they please be mindful of this when posting in the future.

I get it's annoying but I wouldn't kick off over it as it's nothing damning and I doubt many people even watched it. However next time you meet up I would say you'd prefer if you weren't in any pics/videos.

Minisoksmakehardword

It was in a public setting. Someone in the group was getting food and drinks so another member and I were just casually chatting. Part that got caught on video was me telling said member where DP works cause she's aiming to do exactly what DP does.

Nothing terribly private but still something I'd prefer not to be made public even if nobody cares, if that makes sense?

YANBU. I'm not on that much social media, but anything I am is private and I only have friends/followers that are people I actually know.
I have one friend that constantly posts picture of me, despite my having asked her not too, and it's really pissing me off. They're not anything out of the ordinary, just on a night out etc, but I absolutely HATE myself in photos and rarely post any myself, so I really don't want anyone else posting ones that literally thousands of people can see.
Friend is one of those people with 5000 Facebook 'friends' etc.

It becomes an invasion of privacy when you post photos or recordings of other people! I completely understand why you are upset.

Not ok. I'd feel uncomfortable with this. Say something and she should immediately offer to take it down.

I really don't think you can be too careful with social media.

Just say ‘hey you probably didn’t realise but you can see and hear me on that clip. For personal reasons I don’t want that on the Internet. Would you mind taking it down?’

If it was a random 10 second clip of what she was doing it was probably on her story which means it could be deleted in 24hours anyway.

There's no law or rule about it. You're in a public space so no privacy or harassment laws involved as far as I'm aware. People don't need your permission and unless it's slanderous then there's nothing you can do.

Also if it's a story it'll be gone in 24 hours

I sympathise- there’s no privacy these days. I dread nights out as inevitably someone is going to plaster blurry unflattering photos over social media, it baffles me, why not just enjoy the moment instead of boring people on the internet with it.

There's no law or rule about it. You're in a public space so no privacy or harassment laws involved as far as I'm aware. People don't need your permission and unless it's slanderous then there's nothing you can do.

Chill. The OP hasn't said they're planning on appointing a solicitor.

OP, I don't post much on social media (so I'm not sure of the etiquette) but would take a post down immediately if someone in a picture/video asked me to. She may say no but there's no harm in asking.

Yeah, I'd ask her to take it down, unless it's one of those disappear in 24 hour thingies (I'm old fogey too!)

@UnderMajorDomoMinor made a fab suggested text above!

@Akanamali I thought she was asking whether she had any rights in regards to it. Sorry for misunderstanding the tone