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To put the in-laws up in a room that is freshly re-plastered but not painted?

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domestictreadmill · 16/10/2018 21:31

We've recently moved house, and the in-laws are due their inaugural visit next month. I'm not sure how "visitor ready" they're expecting us to be, but we've got a shed load of work to do, and I've just booked in the plasterer to do the guest room ceiling and walls about 3 days before they arrive. It should be dry by the time they sleep in it, but it obviously won't be painted. I'll warn them, so they have the option to postpone, but do you think I should spare them the decision and postpone them anyway? My MiL is asthmatic, so I suppose she may be affected by it.

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19lottie82 · 16/10/2018 22:41

Why not give them your room?

Because the OP will be sleeping in it?

speakout · 16/10/2018 22:46

The room will be damp, smelly and dusty.
Plasterwork can take days to dry.

violetbunny · 17/10/2018 00:34

Tell them it's inconvenient to visit at that time due to renovations, and suggest another time that suits you.

Fluffyears · 17/10/2018 01:00

I would never give up my room. Feel weird about other people being in my bed, plus your husbands parents sleeping where you have sex with their son...ick! Postpone the visit.

Inertia · 17/10/2018 01:22

It won't have dried out by then- you'll need to postpone the visit.

Eliza9917 · 17/10/2018 06:22

Plaster dust is a bastard to get rid of. If your mil has asthma, I'd put them off.

HumptyNumptyNooNoo · 17/10/2018 06:32

Is there an air B&B nearby ? Might be better to do that - as asthma and wet walls don't mix in my book

MsFrosty · 17/10/2018 06:35

I'd tell them and encourage to postpone. When we had plastering done it took a week to dry in winter and the dust took a while to get fully up

strawberrisc · 17/10/2018 06:57

Don’t offer your room. Leave it up to them to decide.

Angrybird345 · 17/10/2018 06:58

Tell them the position and let them decide.

StressedandNameChanged · 17/10/2018 07:13

Give them the option of postponing or staying nearby.
As an asthmatic myself, it's not just the damp so but the dust, and possible fumes from the building and decorating work. I can visit a building site, but staying overnight would be a step too far. Your MIL will know her own triggers, and is best placed to make an informed decision.

adaline · 17/10/2018 07:20

Don't make them sleep in a freshly plastered room - it stinks to high heaven and the whole room will be damp and dusty.

You need to postpone or offer them an alternative room.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 17/10/2018 07:26

You’d be better to change the date with the plasterer for after they’ve gone. Less stress all around.

SaucyJack · 17/10/2018 07:58

No, don’t dick the plasterer around. Poor bloke is trying to earn a living like everyone else.

PoshPenny · 17/10/2018 08:06

Can they find a local b&b to stay in, it doesn't sound ideal that they stay in your house with the asthma. Or postpone

anniehm · 17/10/2018 08:07

Warn them at least, it will not be fully dry and and will be humid in the extreme from the evaporating water. Even in summer it took 4 days

Xenia · 17/10/2018 08:47

Just chat to them about it and see what they say. I am scaninng my 1987 diary and one entry was when we visited the in laws and they had just had their bed room and ensuite done up and they let us sleep in there. It was so amazing and luxurious I wrote all about it in the diary. We didn't quite feel comfortable putting them out of their own room actually but they insisted which was very kind of them. Perhaps you could go in the plastered room? My own parents usually stayed at a local hotel but that was their choice and they could afford it.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 17/10/2018 08:55

No, don’t dick the plasterer around. Poor bloke is trying to earn a living like everyone else

She’s only just booked it, I’m sure he’ll cope with a date change, like the rest of us running a business do.

twoshedsjackson · 17/10/2018 09:45

I had my bedroom plastered recently, during the summer. Admittedly not the super hot bit in July, but still warm and dry enough to have the windows open throughout the day. The plasterer stipulated a week for drying, and he was absolutely right (although only tiny patches towards the end of the week), the drifting dust was the fine stuff which was particularly insidious, and the smell impinged, even unto the spare bedroom! Plus, I see that your MIL is asthmatic; if they have the full facts, will they be so keen?
I wouldn't inflict that on a guest, in fact given the option I would have moved out myself!
Do they live close enough nearby for a shorter visit, with a reality check and no overnight stay? When they see (and smell!) the room, they will probably think twice anyway.
I also second the warning about messing the plasterer about; not only is it unfair to someone trying to make a living, you may find yourself messed about in return, as a good plasterer will have a full schedule.

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