More of a WWYD than an AIBU

[vale46]

Hello, first post here so please don't shout at me!! My 13 yo DD has just announced she wants to go to a boys house in half term. She's never actually met him - he's at her friends school. She's been chatting with him on Instagram. I said I'm happy to drop them into town for food/shopping but she said she wants to go to his house. I'm not happy because I don't know him or his parents (and neither does she). Am I being too Victorian/controlling if I don't let her go or do I have a point? Feel totally unprepared for the whole teenage thing!

YANBU - he could be anyone!

Meet in town, public place

As above. Meet up in town.

YANBU

I agree. You are not being unreasonable. You never know who it is. Just watch Kayleigh love story on you tube which Leicester police released.

No way!
Neutral place or not at all. It’s not Victorian to want to protect your child, it’s your job!

Is it just her or a group?

Sorry about all the exclamation marks,

Thank you everyone. It's just her not a group of them. I am a massive control freak about lots of things which is why I wanted your advice but I feel better now. xxx

Why won’t she meet him in a public place? I am sure this is a lovely boy but it is a good time to talk to her about internet safety in general and how meeting new people in public is wiser.

If she must go to his house maybe drop her off and go with her for the first few minutes to say hello to the parents and get a feel for them. She should take a phone with her so she can call you to pick her up if she feels uncomfortable.

My 13 year old DD would have the choice of meeting him in our house, under our supervision, or not meeting him at all. End of.