AIBU to ask how DD ditches a leech?

[nakaji]

DD is 17, final exam year and says she is miserable in school because a girl she was nice to is now following her around like a puppy. She finds the girl deeply annoying - always fishing for compliments and saying black is white whenever the opportunity arises. She comes out with ‘stupid shit’ all time. DD’s friends are spending less time with her because of this girl yet DD can’t seem to ditch her cos she follows her everywhere. The girl has no other friends - DD felt sorry for her initially but now can’t shake her. I feel sorry for the girl too but it’s very hard to be friends with someone you just don’t click with. In fact it’s impossible. DD is frustrated that I have no advice. The girl takes no hints.

DD is 17, final exam year and says she is miserable in school because a girl she was nice to is now following her around like a puppy. She finds the girl deeply annoying - always fishing for compliments and saying black is white whenever the opportunity arises. She comes out with ‘stupid shit’ all time. DD’s friends are spending less time with her because of this girl yet DD can’t seem to ditch her cos she follows her everywhere. The girl has no other friends - DD felt sorry for her initially but now can’t shake her. I feel sorry for the girl too but it’s very hard to be friends with someone you just don’t click with. In fact it’s impossible. DD is frustrated that I have no advice. The girl takes no hints.

I bet I am not the only person who thinks an adult describing a 17 year old like this is fairly unpleasant.

My daughter had a similar situation when she was about 12. She needs to decide how much contact she's willing to have with this girl outside of school and limit it to that. There's not much she can do if the girl is "following her around" in school, but unless they're in the same classes that shouldn't amount to that much time. If they're not socializing on the weekends or after school I can't see it as that much of a problem.

It's also an opportunity for your DD to learn some empathy.

Has she tried to talk to this person about it? Not hints, which are crap and never a good idea. She needs to tell her "look, I'm sorry but we don't have anything in common and you're upsetting me with your argumentativeness. Can you please not follow me around anymore"