Is this sad?

[tiggerkid]

Is it too sad to spend Xmas day with just your family, i.e. no in-laws and none of your own side of the family either? I've never done it before but this year, for some reason, I really fancy just a quiet and peaceful Xmas with just my family. Whenever I tell people I am considering that, everyone seems to look at me as if I've grown 5 heads with at least 10 horns on each of them but is it really that wrong or that sad?

Both me and dh are nc with dps and no other relatives. Us and dc =perfect!

westwing , I love the sound of ‘wafting’ around !! Think I may suggest it to dh

did it last year and it was bliss, just me DH and DD

we'd hosted my family for several years, which involved lots of expense and preparation

last year had been a tough one, DF died and DM had spent six month in hospital, and we couldn't do the family thing. DM couldn't have managed the two steps up to our house, and I didn't want to drag DD away from all her new toys...

so we had the most relaxing christmas ever, DH barbecued the turkey, we watched movies, and weren't left with a mountain of washing up.

trying to work out if we can get away with doing it again this year....

Every year me, my partner and daughter stay at home and have a quiet Xmas. We enjoy it all together as our little family. Any in laws (on both sides) if they want to see us they either see us before or after Xmas and Boxing Day. Just the way we have been ever since we were a family in our own house. We think we have made our little family so we like it quiet. Don't get me wrong we like seeing our bigger family but Xmas is our time.

Flashing that’s awful 😳!!!
I LOVE Christmas dinner and pile my plate with a little bit of EVERYTHING including EVERY sauce imaginable!
There should be a choice of deserts including Christmas pudding, cheese, fruit, ice cream , Christmas cake an so on.
You don’t have to make a pig of yourself and eat everything but it’s so lovely to all dig in to a festive selection!
I would refuse to go to the house of Scrooge, it sounds miserable

No. It's bliss 

This sounds AMAZING and it is what we will be doing this year again

@Flashingbeacon could you swap veggies with another guest? Let's say 4 of your parsnips for a couple of sprouts and half a potato?

We do this most years. Just the 3 of us. It's absolute bliss.

Did it last year, me my partner and my daughter. She had just turned 1 and it was lovely.

My partner is working this year and I'll be 6 months pregnant so I'm just going to stay at home with her and cook the dinner for when he comes home at 5.

Minimum stress. 👌

Yanbu. We do it every year me hubby and son. We can please ourselves wear what we want and eat when we want. It sounds normal to me. Have a great Xmas[santa]

We've always done this and have never thought it an odd thing to do. Having said that, both my parents and DP's parents are now dead, so it wouldn't be an option even if we wanted it.

It’s fantastic we do this every year since DH and I married. We used to travel to see his family Boxing Day but once we had kids it got to the day after Boxing Day. Now we go before Christmas. We just have a lovely chilled time on our own, Bucks Fizz whilst opening pressies, cooked breakfast, nice walk, late Christmas dinner and total chill out day. The kids can get dressed or not get dressed. It’s just lovely, no guilt no squashing up, having to make an effort and dress up, no having to be overly sociable. Try it I bet you won’t go back.

I must be very sad then. I spend Christmas day completely alone while the DC go to the 'big family do' with their DF. I don't go, as I refuse to spend an entire day in his company - 5 minutes is more than enough. I read a book, eat what I like and don't even bother getting dressed. It's wonderful .

Last year I did help out at a Christmas lunch for homeless people and that was nice also.

I'm on my own this year. First time ever.
No family in the UK and with it being mid week , means that my children won't be able to, comfortably, get together with me, their father or each other. They're working 24 and 27th.
However!
We all have our own plans and mine is to spend time eating, sending love and watching films.
Until it's time to get back to work again.
Which in my case, is 2nd January.

Thank you, ladies :) I am starting to feel like I am not mad and haven't grown 5 heads with 10 horns on each of them already!

I have to work Christmas Eve and boxing day. We live close to my parents, but they have a manically full house (three aunt's and their families, plus assorted others packed into a small terraced house.)

My in laws live 140 miles away.

When dd was younger we alternated, but last two years we've spent it just the three of us. And it's bliss. No running around after all the "guests" at mum's (I grew up there, ergo I get to play skivvy for the day) and no long drive and having to move around family houses.

We'll head up to the in laws the week before, and see my parents the weekend before. But on the day just us doing whatever we like for the day. And DD can actually play with her stuff without being in someone's way.

I never get to see my side of the family at Christmas (I'm from abroad)

We always go to oh's family and it's all their own traditions god forbid I suggest something different. I also end up having to see my sister in laws, in laws every single Christmas and it's getting tiresome. My own in laws are enough!

I would like to have a Christmas at home with just us so we can merge our family traditions so it feels a little like our own Christmas's traditions not me having to just fit into everything they do.

I don't know how that will go down with everyone but for once I'd like to be in my own home.

For many, many years it's only ever been me and Dd at Christmas.
We love it, we have our own wee traditions and always have a lovely time, now she's older, 17, she often goes out to see friends so I'm in on my own for a while but that's fine too.