to be expecting bad news?

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Been in hospital for a doppler after being admitted last week because there was an absent diastolic flow through the umbilical cord. They let me home a couple of days ago but want to do close monitoring.

I couldn't make out what the doppler said, but the sonographer said 'hmm, still looks high' and also asked if I had been leaking amniotic fluid (I don't think I have?).

The doppler was two hours ago and I'm still sat in the waiting area waiting to talk to someone about it. I don't want to be a pain and ask how long it's going to be, but I can only assume that if everything was okay they would've sent me home by now?

Freaking out a little and don't know how much longer I can wait. Seems like a lifetime...

AIBU to think they have bad news for me? Sat here trying not to cry as my anxiety is going up every minute that passes...

@Bigboobiebish it's just not ideal. I know labour happens as it needs to and is a means to an end but it's very anxiety inducing knowing that you find out in a few days if you're having an induction or not! I'm just nervous that's all.

I was looking for this thread to see how you were OP! I had reverse diastolic flow with dd at 28 weeks. Just seen that you are full term though so good luck with the birth

Nervous is perfectly understandable but it's good that they're keeping a close eye on you and will act if necessary. And the fact that you're at 37 weeks is great.

"Ideal" is a bit more tricky, very few births are ideal outside NCT literature I think.

It’s not surprising you’re nervous - you’ve come so far; it’s worrying until the baby is here; and nobody dreams of an induction.

All you can do is rest and try not to stress. I have 2 x 37 weekers; both were absolutely fine! First was an induction and although I ended up with a section, that was only because of the consultant’s recommendation (I had GD and a couple of other things!). Once the baby is here, you will barely remember any of this, and how he or she gets here won’t matter

It's just that your title implies that you would get bad news. Like really bad news that I don't even want to type out.

Not that you might get induced.

@RememberWhenRibenaTastedNice the bad news is that they think the placenta is failing, so I'm in for daily dopplers and monitoring every day. There's reduced amniotic fluid and they're not sure what's causing it (there have been issues all the way through pregnancy) so whilst it's not devastating (I've been on the receiving end of devastating news before) it's not good either. I'm just very anxious and worried there's something wrong with baby. Was really hoping they would say that things have normalised and baby looks okay!

@SouthernComforts thank you! It's really scary. I can't sleep at night for fear that the placenta will just fail. So anxious.

Oh @BarbarianMum I regret ever going to NCT!

You'll be fine. Things could be worse.

Good luck with the birth.

🌷it’s natural to worry, especially when you’ve had lots of problems.

If I were you, I’d ask to be induced as soon as possible. 37 weeks, 38 by the time they do it, is fine. It’s better than the stress you are under worrying about your placenta failing.

Do whatever you can to reduce your stress levels.

I don’t think anything anyone says will stop your anxiety. The fact you are full term is encouraging.
Wishing you a safe and happy delivery whenever that is

It sounds like they are keeping a close eye on you, try not to worry, I know that's not easy!

I don’t mean to sound harsh but it might be better if they do admit you and get your baby out! Especially if the placenta is failing. My 36 weeker is happy and healthy and I was unexpectedly induced.

Wishing all the best for you and your lo