I have a 9 year old DC who goes to dads almost half the time. I am in a group chat with some of the other mums from school, and last weekend one of the mums put a post asking if any of the children wanted to go bowling with their child. The children would need dropping off/picking up, but she would stay with them throughout. I then tried phoning my exP and got no answer. So I text and explained that DC had been invited and to let me know if DC could go so I could arrange it. I didn’t hear back until later that evening, whereby exP told me they were out at the time. He then went on to say he would prefer it if I just let the parent know DC is with him that weekend and to feel free to get in touch to ask if DC is free/make arrangements. I have said I feel uncomfortable doing this, and would prefer to contact him myself on these occasions and arrange it myself. He has said he would prefer to make any arrangement direct with the other parent and not having to go through me as a third party to make arrangements. Who is BU?
So as not to drip feed, he and DC’s stepmum do have the other parents contact details, as stepmum has arranged for DC to have friends over in the holidays and also all DC’s friends went to their house for a sleepover for DC birthday. It would be the stepmum that the other parent would be texting to arrange these things, and I feel awkward telling the other parents to get in contact with stepmum to arrange.
I text exP about a similar thing the last time DC was at his for the weekend and he just replied, I will get in touch with other parent. I was left not knowing if exP had arranged this with other parent or indeed if DC had gone as invited!