Are people just ruder nowadays?

[Singlebutmarried]

In a local supermarket at one of the self serve tills scanning my goodies and packing as I go and as usual there’s a queue and one out of order till.

I’m at the first till so the queue is behind me, lady behind me is being given grief by the lady behind her for not going to the broken till,

I turned round and said ‘that one’s broken, that’s why no one’s using it’

First Lady said thanks and seemed a bit relieved that someone else had also told lady 2 that it was broken.

Lady one moves on to the next till. Lady 2 now directly behind me with one of the small trolleys, but she’s resting it on my hip.

I look at her and she moves it back a bit (I needed to move over to use the chip n pin). As I’m inputting my number the cheeky moo rams me in the bloody hip.

I glared at her and muttered under my breath.

I’m by no means a yoof any longer, but AIBU to think some of the older generation should mind their bloody manners.

I think that the older generation has always complained about the younger, but I do think that people are way too overstressed these days. You could put it down to all sorts of things, but certainly the pace of life and the digital always-on expectation have done a number on me. It wouldn't surprise me if that's behind a lot of it.

No, rude people have always been around.

There is a particular brand of rudeness/idiocy regarding self checkouts. The man who leant across me before I'd even put my bags in the bagging area and scanned his fucking razors.

Just wait until the stress of Christmas shopping starts in earnest!

Hope you're okay, OP.

I've got to say, I have had far more problems with older people being rude, than younger people

Far more entitled and physically aggressive. I have seen an old person push a child into the road, because older person wanted to stand at the front of the bus que, and mother and child were there first

I myself was hit in a supermarket que once, with a heavy tray. Because ''who do I think I am with all that shopping''

I’m fine (sporting a fine bruise on my already arthritic hip)

Was just gobsmacked. If I’d have done similar I’m sure I’d have been escorted out.

Yes!! sorry to generalise, because of course it isn’t all, but older people can be vile.

One particular occasion sticks out in memory with an older person and a supermarket - if I hadn’t have been on the phone at the time, she would have ended up wearing my trolley (of course she wouldn’t really, but I played this scenario out in my head in vivid detail).

Now I give it back, not proud of it, but if you think you can be rude to me, I’ll be rude to you.

yes they are

I don't know if people are any ruder really, but I do think that the licence that some keyboard warriors feel they have on the internet to be as rude and aggressive as they want can spill over into their interactions with people in rl.

There are some nasty people everywhere, I think there always have been. Perhaps they tended to hide it a bit better because of society's restrictions in years gone by.

Being rammed by other shoppers in the supermarket has happened to me on a couple of occasions. One was an older woman and one was a woman who I think was probably in her early 30s; both times over 20 years ago; shopping trolley rage, is that a thing.

Also experienced horrible road rage particularly from other women too. One noticeable occasion when I was with one of DD when she was learning to drive.

I think a lot of people live in a bubble nowadays - constantly in their car or on their phone and not really aware of other people or very tolerant of them.

I have only met one really rude person at the self checkout queue but she was incredibly bad mannered and impatient, and had her small son with her. I felt sorry for him being brought up by someone like that and I did actually say that I hoped he would grow up to have better manners than her.

If someone physically hurts me in a public place, which happens relatively often as people seem to think it's OK to barge a wheelchair with buggies and trollies, I shout, "Ow! Help! This person has hurt me!" which either REALLY embarrasses them and shows them up and they then apologise or scuttle off in shame, or it makes them shit themselves. Either way, I'm sure they'd think twice about it in future

The world is passing through troublous times. The young people of today think of nothing but themselves. They have no reverence for parents or old age. They are impatient of all restraint. They talk as if they knew everything, and what passes for wisdom with us is foolishness with them. As for the girls, they are forward, immodest and unladylike in speech, behavior and dress

I work in retail and on the whole, I find the elderly significantly ruder. Far too many think they can speak to younger people like absolute shit.

^ said in 1274 (and not by me).

Stripy

I suspect you are one of the people I refer to in my post.

And it’s women, not girls.

HTH

Oops cross post 😳

I've got to say, I have had far more problems with older people being rude, than younger people same for me.

I teach adults with the majority being under thirty and they are usually a pleasure to teach. I don’t think the yooooof has suddenly become rude and entitled at all, it’s not my experience with young people whatsoever.

Old people though, I definitely get a sense of entitlement from. Obviously not all of them! But you get the feeling they demand respect purely because they’ve been alive longer, it’s not happening. They also tend to be shit drivers but that’s a whole other thread...

Definitely many more people are rude and aggressive than ever used to be. I blame football.

I hate people ramming trolleys into others. Have had this happen to me, once In Ikea where the youngish bloke behind and the girl he was with thought they were being hilarious about my (then) fat arse. Then other few times it has happened it has been older people pushing to get through because the person in front of me has been slow. I always call them out on it as they know what they are doing, a slow continuous push into my hip. Fuckers.

ha, ha SemperIdem, no I don't speak like that (thankfully!!). Just showing how the youth being ruder has always been an opinion:

"I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words... When I was young, we were taught to be discreet and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly wise [disrespectful] and impatient of restraint".
^ 8th century BC

There is no way I wouldn't have said anything. I would have said "what the bloody hell do you think you're doing? You hit me on purpose you bloody menace". Just like I said when someone on a mobility scooter did when they rammed me from behind.

I really don’t like people!

I shop in Waitrose and some of the customers can be so entitled and rude - to fellow shoppers! They will quite happily barge into you and not apologise.

I was having this conversation with a cashier and she said some customers are really quite unpleasant to her and look down on her.

At the moment I’m working part time in a university library. Most of the students are nice but a few are quite stuck up and look down on the staff for “just” working in a library. Never mind that most of us have degrees or are currently studying too!

yep ruder and more selfish and self absorbed

hope your hip is ok after the bruise