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What time does your 10 year old go to bed?

38 replies

AjasLipstick · 15/10/2018 12:29

That's it really. Mine is supposed to go at 9.30 but delays and delays...constantly messing about, reading, writing etc. She has a dim nightlight in a corner which she sneaks out of bed and stretches across so she can see to read!

I'm so tired! I feel I can't "turn off". We're in Australia and it's ten o clock pm now. She's a full-on kid and talks to me constantly a lot. So I just want to say BUGGER OFF now!

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AmabelleOnabike · 15/10/2018 12:32

8pm! 9pm on the weekend. He delays as much as possible. The rule is if he wants me to read to him (and yes I still do, We read books together, he reads a bit out loud, i read most some) he must be in bed before 8:30. If there is something good/educational on tv then he can stay up til 9, but he forfeits a story.

Annabel7 · 15/10/2018 12:33

I send mine up at 7.30 with a view to lights out at 8. She needs a lot of sleep though and is not a morning person...

ChoccyJules · 15/10/2018 12:33

8pm and light off by 8.30pm, unless clearly knackered then light off at 8.

Aprilislonggone · 15/10/2018 12:34

Ds is ten next month, usually in bed between 7.30-8 and is asleep in minutes. Up at 7.
My 12 yo doesn't stay up til 9.30.

TheDuckSaysMoo · 15/10/2018 12:36

Into bed at 8:30 to read. Lights off at 9:30. No specific bedtime at the weekend - it depends what we are doing. You can't force someone to sleep. If they are getting up okay in the morning then a sneaky late night read is okay. If they aren't getting up in the morning then I'd make the 'into bed' and official lights out times earlier so that the sneaky reading finishes earlier too.

treaclesoda · 15/10/2018 12:37

I stopped trying to send my son to bed early when it was clear that he just wasn't tired enough. He's younger than 10 but doesn't go to bed until 9pm and he doesn't actually fall asleep until after 11pm a lot of the time. He's not messing about or watching TV or anything, he just isn't tired enough to fall asleep. And he has no difficulty getting up in the morning. So I've just accepted that he doesn't need early nights.

TheDuckSaysMoo · 15/10/2018 12:38

For context our wake up time is 7:45am.

scortja · 15/10/2018 12:39

They go up at 730 then the whole palaver - teeth, stories, songs, chats - takes about half an hour.. he can read as long as he wants but I only say this because he's usually sound asleep by 830, if not earlier..

Wakes up at 645am

NorthEndGal · 15/10/2018 12:39

Ours had to be in bed, teeth brushed at 8:30, read until 9:00, then lights out

Autumn101 · 15/10/2018 12:41

I’m bed at 7pm and reads until 7.30/7.45pm.

However we’re up at 5.45am and leave the house by 7am

YouCantBeSirius · 15/10/2018 12:44

Bedtime is 9pm for my 10 year old but she likes to read until 9:30pm

MaintainTheMolehill · 15/10/2018 12:51

My 9 year old shares a room with his 12 nearly 13 year old brother. Both where going to bed at 7:30 with lights off at 8:30. However a couple of weeks ago we changed it to bed at 8:30 lights off at 10 as they weren't going to sleep because it was too early.
He sleeps from 10 until 7:15am.
At the weekend it can be anytime from the usual week time to 1am depending on what we are doing/family parties/movie nights etc.

BingerGeer · 15/10/2018 12:51

For my 10yo, lights out is 8.30 on school nights, no screens for an hour before that (so upstairs doing teeth, showering, reading, trying out new hairstyles etc). 9.00 in the holidays.

To be honest, if she’s waking chirpy and getting up OK at 7.00, then I don’t bother about the odd bit of late night reading. I crack down if I notice she’s tired and grumpy in the mornings.

Tinty · 15/10/2018 12:58

I would send her to her room at 9pm but let her read a book until she is tired. My Dmum sent me to bed a 8 pm up until I was 14 I read until 11pm from about 9 years old. I was always up at 7 am wide awake and raring to go.

AiryFairyUnicornRainbow · 15/10/2018 13:03

Bring the bed time forward to 9pm, and let her read until shes tired.

I was given a bed time, but was allowed to read until I was ready to sleep, but I was expected to stay quiet and in my room

DunesOfSand · 15/10/2018 13:11

I'm Shock at how early done of these are.
My 9 year old is 8 or 8 30, and usually awake well before his alarm at 5.45 (out the house 6.45).
But Id agree with send her up at 8.30 or 9, and she can read for a bit before turning the light out. Maybe make 9.45 a hard "lights off" time if that's about the time she is going to sleep now.

Abitlost2015 · 15/10/2018 13:12

9:30

treaclesoda · 15/10/2018 13:13

I'm shock at how early done of these are.

So am I. Particularly for older children. My 12 year old isn't even home until 9pm some nights, as the activities she does don't finish until then. Then she still has to do homework.

BingerGeer · 15/10/2018 13:19

I think it depends a lot on your child and when they have to get up for school - if you have a child who needs a solid ten hours each night to wake up rested (and behave decently) then for a 7.00 start they need to be asleep at 9.00. So that means lights off a bit before that (say 8.30). Quite different for a child who is happy on eight hours sleep with an 8.00 getting up time.

BlooperReel · 15/10/2018 13:22

DC is almost 10, 8.30 latest on a school night, usually 8pm though, wake up is 6.30am so we cannot do any later or we get all kinds of emotional dramatics the following morning and evening.

hestia2018 · 15/10/2018 13:28

10 yr old DS - ready for bed by 8.30 pm then reading for a bit - supposed to be asleep by 9pm but it’s been slipping to 9.30 some nights. Up at 7am. He’s pretty good at saying if he’s tired and will sometimes go to bed early.

KC225 · 15/10/2018 13:31

Upstairs for 8.15 to brush teeth get ready on a school night. So 8.30 is by the time they have a drink etc. 9 ish definitely 9.15 on school holidays, weekends.

IToldYouIWasFreaky · 15/10/2018 13:34

Just turned 11 year old DS usually goes to bed somewhere between 8 and 9 on a weekday, depending on activities (one night is much later as he has Scouts until 9pm). He usually reads until around 9.30. I don't enforce it, he'll just read until he's tired enough to sleep. I just know it's 9.30ish as I hear the thud of the book hitting the floor!

sugarbum · 15/10/2018 13:34

Mine is 11 (Y7) DH wants him in bed and lights off by 9, but I have found that really he doesn't need to be in bed until 9.30 and is usually awake until an hour after that.
We insist all electonics are off by 8.15 latest, but he is allowed to read or draw or something after that. He generally just lies there complaining that he doesn't want to do those things!
At the weekend, I'm letting him watch netflix in his room until 9.30. That rule just started on Saturday, so we will see how it goes.

LimboLuna · 15/10/2018 13:37

How do you manage it?!
By the time they are in from whatever after school activity, fed, reading, bath and a bit of a chill out time i struggle to get them in to bed before 10.