to ask why some parents (particularly dads!) treat daughters differently?

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i may be BU here but it seems like so many dads favour daughters over sons

my DH dad definitely favours his sister and protects her/gives her money etc above her brothers

we have a dd and DH is obsessed with her, says he wants her to stay forever etc. she's never allowed a bf if any boy hurt her he would kill them etc.

we're having a little boy after xmas and he just doesnt seem as protective? im really worried (yes im hormonal lol) that he'll always love dd more and i want him to love/care for both our babies equally! like with our baby he says he'll encourage him to look after himself etc. but with our dd i know he'd give her the world on a plate if he could (im very much of the belief that we should be helping both of our DCs but also make sure they are adults who dont rely on us!)

anyone else have experience of this or am i just being silly?

We've got 2 boys, then a girl, age 13, 11 and 8. The boys, and dh, are definitely more protective of dd than of each other, and I can't for the life of me work out why because she's crazy strong and independent, and scares the sh*t out of all three of them!

They do treat her differently though, despite her repeatedly showing them she's just as fast, strong, clever as they are by moments, and I have to keep reminding them that she's not a delicate little snowflake who wants, or appreciates their behaviour.

Dh is much much better now, and can see that when she wants his help, she'll ask for it, until then he needs to support her to make her own decisions/mistakes/jump off that high diving board/climb that tree, the same way he did with the boys. I think he struggled as he's from family of boys and he just had no experience of girls, or how to treat small girls, and genuinely seemed to think dd was needed more gentle handling, She really shown him :-) As for the boys, I think they have a good grounding in the fact that girls aren't delicate little flowers, but it hasn't stopped them protecting her from what they see as perceived danger, and I'm not sure it ever will. Not sure if that's her gender, or the fact she's the baby of the family that influences it.

My dad 100% prefers my brothers, especially the middle one, to me.

My husband is not like this at all, not even the tiniest bit. As for her older brothers, they could hardly be less protective of their little sister. The same is true of my sister's kids (boy and girl).

I do think this is a stereotype, which I have not noticed being real in my family!