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AIBU?

To be beyond fed up?!

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hasanyoneseenbarb · 14/10/2018 15:03

Husband is off playing golf with friends today, this is the second weekend away /off in the past month.

Still insisting on going in the pi**ing rain Angry and living all the housework untouched while I was at work this morning.

Over the year he is regularly away for football, Aibu to be fed up of getting no free weekend time myself other than working?

Next month he is going abroad to watch football again for three days. Whereas I haven't had a full day to myself since DS was born.

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gothefcktosleep · 14/10/2018 15:05

YANBU

Book spa weekend with best friend and go and have a ruddy great time.

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Urbanbeetler · 14/10/2018 15:07

Not fair, no. What could you do about it?

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Sparklesocks · 14/10/2018 15:10

Very unfair, have too spoken about it? You should book a weekend away without him to even if iut.

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Sparklesocks · 14/10/2018 15:10

*it out

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SpiritedLondon · 14/10/2018 15:13

How old is DS? Personally I would go ahead and make some plans. You might want your DH to notice the imbalance and say something but it doesn’t seem that he will - and he seems perfectly comfortable prioritising his own social life. Perhaps he thinks you’re happy staying home. I know if I didn’t make plans my DH would never organise anything. I even planned my birthday day out. Get cracking and start phoning some friends

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SpoonBlender · 14/10/2018 15:19

Seconded, Spirited - exactly what I was going to put.

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staffiegirl · 14/10/2018 15:26

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SpoonBlender · 14/10/2018 15:29

And of course DH will be looking after DS while you're away. That's not only fair, it's his duty.

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IStandWithPosie · 14/10/2018 15:31

Why have you not arranged some socialising for yourself OP? Just do it. Put on the calendar and tell him it’s a done deal.

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DeadGood · 14/10/2018 15:33

“You might want your DH to notice the imbalance and say something but it doesn’t seem that he will - and he seems perfectly comfortable prioritising his own social life.”

I agree with this. It doesn’t make it ok, but I think it is what lies behind many a frustrated wife and mother. We keep waiting for the man to address the inequality. They won’t.

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AlpineButterfly · 14/10/2018 15:38

Op I totally get where you're coming from. My dh is away at uni two.weekends a month, works Mon-fri and also has clinic hours he has to get done. He's home for two days this month and we have two under two.

If I were you I'd massively kick up stink. Please kick up stink for me. I can't because DH is trying to improve our lives therefore you can have my frustration too Grin

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Rudgie47 · 14/10/2018 15:46

You need to talk to him OP. Hes carrying on like a single person, not like a married man with commitments.
If he doesn't want to do his bit in the house and wants to continue like this then you know what to do.

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JosellaPlayton · 14/10/2018 15:50

The issue shouldn’t be him socialising, it’s that he’s not pulling his weight with the housework. And you seriously need to organise some time for yourself too, you’d probably feel better and less resentful about his activities if you had a fair distribution of leisure time. Just book something, anything, put it on the calendar and inform him he needs to keep it free as he’ll be looking after the baby.

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