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Ginfizplease · 14/10/2018 14:01

If you get invited out for a treat for your birthday or other special occasion, should you be expected to pay for yourself? For example, invited for a birthday meal out as a treat or to have a beauty treatment?

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SneakyGremlins · 14/10/2018 14:02

Erm, no? Confused

ProfessorMoody · 14/10/2018 14:04

It depends who's doing the inviting.

Ginfizplease · 14/10/2018 14:08

A friend. Wants to do something to celebrate an achievement of mine. Just the two of us as treat. When something similar happened a couple of years ago the friend wanted to treat me to something but when we were there the freind just paid for themself

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GreenLantern53 · 14/10/2018 14:10

ive been invited out for a birthday treat on monday but i had to pay out for something over the weekend so told my sister i may have to cancel, she “oh il pay for you then” which obviously meant she wasnt going to originally. It depends on the person i guess.

Oddcat · 14/10/2018 14:10

I wouldn’t expect to pay if someone said they would treat me .

However , you know your friend doesn’t think this way , so if you go , remember to take your purse !

SimplyPut · 14/10/2018 14:10

Perhaps she means celebrate the achievement with you but can't afford to treat you?

Ginfizplease · 14/10/2018 14:14

Yes your probably right. Maybe friend can't afford to. Thing is, I'm not too bothered about celebrating it!

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Ohyesiam · 14/10/2018 14:18

Well to treat someone means to pay for them, as in “ this one’s my treat” , or “ Don’t worry I’ll treat you”.
But “ a treat” is also doing something nice, so there is some ambiguity. Kids get treats all the time, when their whole life is funded by others.

HollowTalk · 14/10/2018 14:18

I'd just say, "Sorry, bit broke at the moment" and see what she says. If she's treating you, she should be paying, otherwise it's not a treat, is it?!

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