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One night getaway alone leaving 7months baby with Dad

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lamii · 14/10/2018 12:13

I live abroad in my husbands country and it's been one year that I haven't been 'home' or abroad. I actually just went a quick trip to London where we used to live so I can enjoy culture and friends. Should I do it? I don't really want to leave baby at home but it seems so much easier if I go get a London fix than going there as a family...

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Aquamarine1029 · 14/10/2018 12:16

If your husband can't care for his own child for one night there are some serious problems.

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lamii · 14/10/2018 12:19

@Aquamarine1029 yes he can ;) I just wonder if I should go because I'll miss my baby

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Original poster
lamii · 14/10/2018 12:20

*want
'I actually just want a quick trip...'

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Aquamarine1029 · 14/10/2018 12:21

You will manage for 24 hours, I'm sure.

TheStoic · 14/10/2018 12:22

I’m sure you will miss your baby, but that’s OK. :-)

blueskiesandforests · 14/10/2018 12:23

If your baby isnt breastfed its fine. If he is the discomfort (for you) and need to pump might not be worth it.

Obviously if you think missing your baby will spoil the trip don't go, or just take the baby with you - 7 month olds are portable, in a year it won't be so easy.

If you think you'll enjoy the trip then of course go and leave your baby with his other parent. Only you know whether you'll enjoy it.

There's no reason not to go if you want to, and no need to go if you don't want to!

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lamii · 14/10/2018 13:07

:) thanks for your replies. I wonder if it's "worth it". It's so ridiculous...

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BlaaBlaaBlaa · 14/10/2018 13:09

It might be nice for your DH to have some time alone with the baby. Plus it's important you get a break. It does wonders for your mental health. 24 hours is nothing.

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lamii · 14/10/2018 13:13

@BlaaBlaaBlaa thanks. Should I go for 2 nights then? Grin

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BalloonDinosaur · 14/10/2018 13:24

I left DS with DP when he was 6 months old. I was breastfeeding so left plenty of expressed milk. I was doing a sponsored walk so was away overnight and back after he was in bed the following day.

I don't think DP got much sleep but they were absolutely fine.

Go, enjoy yourself!

TeaAndToastx2 · 14/10/2018 13:29

I left my 8mth old with my husband for 5 nights while I went to the US for work. He was absolutely fine. Yes I missed them a bit but I also had a great time. It’s good to do stuff for yourself still.

BlaaBlaaBlaa · 14/10/2018 14:38

Why not? My and DH go away together without DS a couple of times a year and have done since he was very young. We also regularly do things separately and have also done this since DS was a newborn

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 14/10/2018 14:43

You'll be home before you've had chance to miss him OP! Go and enjoy yourself.

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