Dh seriously pissing me off this evening

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Ds is 10 months old and has never been a good sleeper I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since he was born, he was ebf for a long time so we got into a habit of me doing all the night feeds and bed sharing whilst dh slept in the spare room. ds has been bottle fed for a while now but dh still sleeps in spare room as he works long hours etc that’s fine as I think he needs a decent sleep for work,when dh gets home ds is usually in bed so he doesn’t have to do anything (baby wise)mon-fri, he does help out a fair bit on weekends but until last weekend was still sleeping in spare room at weekends too, I don’t know why I accepted this.I told him last weekend he needs to pick up the night wakings/feeds atleast one night a weekend so I can get a full sleep he did this last week and was soooo annoying the next day he napped about 3 times and was “so tired”. It’s his turn to do the night tonight and he’s been moaning all evening about how tired he is etc I feel like I am going to explode yes he works all week but what does he think I do everyday ?? He’s got away with having full nights sleeps for 10 months now and I’ve had enough. My return to work is around the corner and there is no way I can keep on doing majority of the night stuff .Don’t know what I am asking but opinions / sympathy please

Here's some.

Have you talked to him about making a rota for when you go back to work? You'll both need to take it in turns then.

Your husband is a fucking man-child. He's soooo tired?! Boo-fucking-hoo. Tell him it's HIS turn and don't let him out of it.

Don’t cave in To his attention seeking, he moans about being tired,
“Yep welcome to my world” ..ignore and go have a full nights sleep

@butchyrestingface I’ve told him when I go back to work things will have to change and he agrees but I think when it happens shit is really going to hit the fan

@aquamarine1029 so annoying isn’t he ! Yeah your right I won’t let him off the hook

That would piss me off too.

When he complains about being tired ask him how tired you must be after 10 months if he's exhausted after 1 night.

Tell him to take iron tablets all that shite he is spouting is clearly depriving him of vital nutrients

Every yawn he does is increasing my blood pressure

I'm in the same boat. It's shit. I'm on unpaid leave and my DH works very hard to provide us with a good lifestyle. But he does very little at home or with kids I'm fucked. I can't keep it up. And I'm to tired to sort my ds2 out into a good strong routine I'm just going with what works (boob and co sleeping). It's a killer. No advice but just so you know you're not alone.

He might genuinely be exhausted. The first few months of having to do night feeds are the worst but my body is getting used to it now. My husband finds it harder though he does help. I just have to poke him when he falls asleep whilst feeding the baby!
If that's the same for him, maybe let him have a few naps to ease into it? If he is making it up, you being super patient might make him give up any games.

I can see why you'd be irritated. Some of what you've said I was nodding along to.

@nothatsnotmyname I agree he probably does find it tiring ,I think I’m used to the no sleep now but he does get 6 nights of full sleep a week in a spare room , you think he would suck up the moaning for one night only and realise how hard it must be for me all the other nights / months

Thanks @sureitsgrand for you ! X

I feel your frustrations its a good job one of us parents can deal on no sleep isn’t it?