To ask how you knew your marriage was over

[myheadisupmyass]

NC'd
I think We may be close to the end of the road with our marriage.
How did you know it was over for you?
I don't get any joy with him anymore
I don't recognise myself
He has emotionally abused me in the past, but I'm only realising now what it was.
He's an ok dad... he provides for and loves the kids. But doesn't invest much time in them and doesn't have a lot of patience for them.
I suspect he is an alcoholic but he denies this.
I don't know how I feel but I know it's not good. Any advice??

A friend of mine said rather than thinking of how bad it has to be to leave you should be thinking in terms of is it good enough to stay? And my marriage wasn't
Also the vows say "for better or worse" but they also say "to love and to cherish" and I wasnt cherished in my marriage
Life is short. What are you getting from this man?

When he told me that 'I must have enjoyed getting raped'.. Yeah, he was a real charmer..

Myhead, I think I’m in the same position as you.

I just don’t feel like we are a team. I feel like he’s only in it for himself. I do love him but I resent him too.

When I came home unexpectedly from work and found him in our swimming pool with the OW. And I wasn't even upset . I just stood there looking at them through the bathroom window and thought, yep it's time to go.

When the thought of it ending, led to feelings of relief and uplifting. No joy at the breakdown of my marriage. I wanted it to work, as a Christian I hold strong values in marriage. Previously I'd not felt the benefits of it ending. It felt sad and full of dread. The shift in thinking and emotions....I know it's over. Looking forward to the future now.

When he had admitted cheating on me, but refused to come home from a work trip to sort it out, then began emailing jokes to me. I told him not to come back and after a couple of weeks, I realised that my chronic indigestion had eased, as had my IBS. Now, I wonder how I stayed married to him for all that time.

I'm sorry you're going through this.