6yo saying he wants to kill himself

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A new boy recently moved to dc’s class. I knew his mum before through a mutual friend, and we arranged a play date. They now sometimes play together in class. I suspect the boy might be on the autistic spectrum. I hear from other parents and my dc that he is often disruptive and violent in class.

My dc is now telling me that they played a game where they kill themselves, and then run around the playground pretending to kill their classmates. It wasn’t just one time occurrence - in fact this boy initiated some game like this every time they play together.

What should I do about this? DC is somewhat upset about this. He asked me a lot of questions about death and why does his friend want to die following this. I am worried about the impact this is having on him. I am also worried about him possibly becoming alienated from his other friends because of this.

I don’t feel comfortable talking to the boys parents. Should I talk to the teacher? I definitely want these games to stop and to be honest I’d rather dc and this boy stop spending so much time together. But I don’t know what is the right way to deal with this situation...

Talk to the teacher. These games are actually relatively normal. There so young they don’t truly understand the impact of what they are playing.

Maybe encourage your son to play other games. YouTube some fun playground ones, or if they are allowed to take balls in get him an eye catching football to take in as an excuse not to play.

You also need to teach him to be a little more assertive so if his friend wants to start the game he has the power to say no let’s do something different and to walk away if the boy doesn’t want too.

Ditto. Talk to the teacher and ask that their friendship is monitored closely and ask for your child to be encouraged to play with a variety of children.

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That’s so rude lemtheoriginal just click watch this thread instead. The op is looking for advice not a page full of ignorants leaving full stops or writing place marking.

isnt this kind of normal??? cant get worked up tbh. just like playing games where they kill the baddies or whatever.

"and to be honest I’d rather dc and this boy stop spending so much time together."
Why - because he is on the autism spectrum or because parents gossip in the playground that he is disruptive (he is 6 years old, shame to be writing him off so early) or because of a silly game. How awful for the other child not to be good enough for your dc.

I dont have anything to add. Just think its pretty shit to want your child separated from a child on the spectrum. Yes talk to the school and expect them to raise the issue with the other parents.

I am not sure whether he is on the spectrum or has other reasons for his behavior. I have reservations about my son being very close friend with someone who talks about violence and hurts other children because he isn’t equipped to deal with that at his age and some adult clearly needs to manage this situation.

So speak to the school.

Come on, LEM. The OP has every right to want to discuss it here.