Cancelled party

[Mosschopz]

DD is supposed to be having her birthday party today; it’s an outdoor woodland party so we’ve had to cancel because of the weather. All of the parents have been informed except one who never RSVP’ed in the first place. I sent her a reminder last week and she ignored that too...but...the child has repeatedly told my DD he’s coming. AIBU to go and loiter at the parry venue in case they show? OH says no way, it was rude of them to ignore the invite and reminder, so tough tits if they turn up. I just feel bad for the kid...

Can you not text her " in case x was planning to come along..."

I agree with your OH, if they can't be bothered to rsvp, why should you put yourself out?
I have had children say they are coming to parties, because they want to, but their parents have already told me they can't, so you cannot rely on the child's info.

Is there anyone who knows her better who you can contact? If you have her number and have texted her and have had no reply then I think you've done all you can. I think if my DS was going to an outdoor party in this weather, I'd be contacting the hosts to see if it was still on. I reckon they won't turn up, and even if they do, you've done what you can to let them know.

They didn't rsvp and havnt provided contact info.

It's not your problem so don't do anything. They probably wouldn't turn up with weather like this anyway.

Please don't waste your Saturday on inconsiderate people.

Concentrate on your DD.

Hmm, focus on making up for your daughter's disappointment, or lurk around waiting for impolite people to show up or not. It's a toughie...

I don't understand, why don't you just text her?

I wouldnt go and loiter, but I would text or ring her, or if you have no contact details, as around?

I agree tho, the other mother has been a bit rude, but not the biggest deal, sometimes we all hve such huge amounts of shit to deal with, that things are easily forgotton

Sorry about your childs party btw OP x

I wouldn’t bother. Stay at home . If they turn up say you sent a message to those who RSVP and as they hadn’t , you thought they weren’t coming.
Happy birthday to your dd

I assume OP already has informed the parent. It's basic common sense.

Just send her a text saying that he party is cancelled due to the weather.

she never sent an RSVP or replied to other messages

don't worry.

Send a message the same way you sent the reminder. Job done.

If someone can't be bothered to rsvp, I wouldn't be bothered to loiter somewhere on the off chance they would turn up. I would assume from no contact that they weren't planning on coming.

Go out and do something else with your daughter instead.

Communication was probably a letter, I am gonna guess if she has the womans number there would be no dilemma

I would focus on your Dd. Maybe lesson learnt if she does turn up.

I am not sure why we spend our lives looking out for people who are just rude

Don't loiter at the venue, you've done enough. Take your DD for a treat.

LOL at "why don't you just text her" - perhaps the OP doesn''t have this non-RSVPer's phone number?

I am going to have the same problem tomorrow - lots of invitations went out to DS2's party in the park at school - I don't have most of those parents' contact details, only the ones I already knew, and the ones who bothered their arses to RSVP!

So if I do have to cancel the party in the morning (I will leave it til then because the weather has been SO hit and miss), then I won't be able to tell a large percentage of potential guests. But then I guess, if it's raining enough, they won't turn up anyway.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to your DD. I hope that she is able to have a wonderful day anyway.

We had to move my DD party and I couldn’t contact those who hadn’t RSVP’d cos we gave out paper invites through school and I didn’t have any contact details for them (and it was the summer holidays). The party was at home so we waited in in case anyone turned up. Nae bugger did. Don’t waste your time on them OP.

The whole point of RSVP'ing is for this sort of situation. If they can't be bothered to RSVP, it'll be their fault if they then turn up and the party is off. Hope your DD still has a lovely birthday!

It would be extremely rude to not RSVP and then turn up under ANY circumstances.

How old are the kids? For my 10 year old’s party I think I only had one or two responses- the rest of the kids told him at school if they’d be coming or not. Which wasn’t ideal as he has slight SN so doesn’t always get messages right so I felt I had to try and collar the parents to check with them anyway. So at a certain age maybe it’s the norm these days just for the child to tell the inviter at school whether they’re going or not?

But what could you do about it even if this child does turn up at the venue? You can't uncancel the party, all you can do is tell her it's cancelled - which the people who run the venue can presumably do anyway.