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Taking DD to a party other DD is invited to?

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PSILoveWine · 12/10/2018 22:46

So my youngest DD (7) is going to a party tomorrow at a trampoline park.
I have no childcare for my eldest DD (11) so she will have to come along with.
Wibu to take eldest DD with me and pay for her myself to join in? Or should I make her sit in the cafe with me?

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garethsouthgatesmrs · 12/10/2018 22:48

if it's still open to the public then of course you can pay for her but she cant be part of the party, thats rude.

Homemenu1 · 12/10/2018 22:49

Can you not drop her off and pick her up at the end?

ButchyRestingFace · 12/10/2018 22:49

At 11 years of age, wild horses would not have dragged me into a party for 7 years old. Grin

NoLeslie · 12/10/2018 22:50

Can she not just stay at home? Or drop the 7 year old and come back for her?

pinkhorse · 12/10/2018 22:50

Can't she stay at home? She's 11!

MarthasGinYard · 12/10/2018 22:51

If she wants to trampoline then yes pay for her if still open to public but totally separate to party.

SuperGekkoMuscles · 12/10/2018 22:53

I would say either drop your 7 year old off and leave her, pay for the eldest to jump as well but she isn’t part of the party so can’t be involved in food etc, or she just sits in the cafe with you. What does she want to do?

KC225 · 12/10/2018 22:57

Wouldn't she prefer to stay at hone or hang out with a friend. Wouldn't she be embarrassed going to a 7 years olds birthday party - especially if she hasn't been invited.

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Lindy2 · 12/10/2018 23:03

Why are you planning to stay at the party at all? Drop off younger DD. Go somewhere else for a while with older DD. Then collect younger DD at the end of the party.
If there is some genuine reason you really fo need to be at the party does an 11 year old really need to be there too? Surely she won't need childcare for just a couple of hours and is ok to stay at home.

garethsouthgatesmrs · 12/10/2018 23:03

good point about dropping the 7 year old, absolutely no need for you to stay at a 7 year old's party, espeically at an organised party venue like this. They wont be expecting you to stay.

Hellywelly10 · 12/10/2018 23:03

Can you do something else with the 11yr old? is there anything else close by?

donkeysandzebras · 12/10/2018 23:05

We're in a similar position on Sunday. I'm taking DC1 and a friend so that they can entertain each other whilst DC2 is jumping win the party friends

ShadyLady53 · 12/10/2018 23:05

If it’s a private party, it’s a bit rude to turn up with a sibling. If it’s open to the public it’s fine.

I personally think you should leave the seven year old and take the 11 year old for a fancy drink at Costa and a bit of shopping.

Original poster
PSILoveWine · 12/10/2018 23:15

Ahh I guess yous are right.
I haven't asked older DD as I expected DH to be home from work to be with her.
I guess I will just take her out for a wee lunch instead.
Thanks for your responses I never looked at it that way x

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SchoolPanicTime · 12/10/2018 23:19

If it's a big trampolining park of course the two of you can join in. Those places are huge; the seven year olds will be off doing their own thing. When it's time for the party food just go to the cafe with your eldest and buy your own food.

SchoolPanicTime · 12/10/2018 23:19

(By join in obviously I mean you'd have to pay for your own tickets though!)

SchoolPanicTime · 12/10/2018 23:21

Wouldn't she prefer to stay at hone or hang out with a friend. Wouldn't she be embarrassed going to a 7 years olds birthday party - especially if she hasn't been invited.

Most 11 year old love trampolining parks and the 7 year old won't have exclusively hired the entire place! It's totally normal for parents to pay for siblings to have a go. These places are usually in god forsaken industrial estates - by the time you've dropped and driven off somewhere else there wouldn't be time to do anything anyway.

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PSILoveWine · 12/10/2018 23:25

I should also add
I was asking because I don't drive and it's not close to anything really, and not near my home, It isn't private but ofcourse I do not want to intrude I just didn't want DD to be bored with me waiting. There will be a cafe close by I'm sure x

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UserName31456789 · 12/10/2018 23:30

I think the previous posters don't understand what a trampolining park is. They are absolutely huge, you won't be intruding on the 7 year olds party! They were all the rage for the Y2 parties my eldest went to last year and all the parents stayed with siblings and just went off separately while the party kids played. It's madness to hide away in the cafe - when you could be having fun with the 11 year old.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 12/10/2018 23:42

Of course it’s fine! You’re just booking her in for the public session. I’ve done this before and it’s not a problem at all. Posters saying you are taking older child into a private party are misunderstanding the set up I think.

civicxx · 13/10/2018 00:02

Oh god I hate kids parties where you have to stay, fantastic from age 6 when you can just drop them off & do a peaceful asda shop haha!

Are you able to get to venue ok? Another idea would be to see if any of the mums that drive (if you know them well) could pick up your DD on the way/bring her home?

We used to do that for 3 children for most class party's for parents that didn't drive :)

Catrina1234 · 13/10/2018 00:08

I'll try and keep this brief. DGD is 18 - very sensible girl just started at Uni and settling well. She has a BF - first time for both - got together in May I think. He's a year younger than her - 18 next March. He's a nice lad and they go well together. Thing is his mother appears to control him and he has to ask if he can go out, whether it be day or evening. In some cases he is afraid to ask if he can go somewhere with DGD - she's met the family and they seemed nice enough. She las let him stay over atDGD's house but he won't ask if he can stay at Uni.................so it's not really my business but it is cus it's upsetting my DGD and I love her so much! Her mom thinks it's silly but she is quite laid back about it and says it'sup to BF to stand up to his mother and she's more levelled headed than me! My son is even more laidback about it and thinks at his age he shouldn't have to be asking hismother's permission to go out etc. I really like the BF but I'm beginning to think he's a wimp and needs to assert himself but I don't think that's going to happen.

Am I over reacting or being unreasonable - DGD does talk about it to me and her parents (not sure if she talks to her friends) Anyway what do ye reckon?

Redglitter · 13/10/2018 00:12

@Catrina1234 You really need to start your own thread.

Homemenu1 · 13/10/2018 09:45

t's not really my business but it is cus it's upsetting my DGD and I love her so much!
This is bucket loads, just stay out of it, it’s nothing to do with you at all.
There’s a multitude of reasons why he might not want to/be allowed to stay over.
You are way to over invested.
Support your dd to be more resilient

@catrina1234

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