Currently doing the who's the most tired dance with DH. We have a 6 week old and a 5 year old so it's the normal hectic day to day life we are living at the minute. Anyways DH works mon to Fri 9-5 And I do all night feeds and obviously also during the day (on mat leave). I sleep in the spare room with baby so as not to disturb DH. On a Friday night I have our bedroom and he takes baby into spare room. Then on Saturday we all sleep together in main bedroom. I don't mind as I want him to be rested for work. He generally heads to bed at 10pm ish. The last two weeks I've occasionally gone upstairs to have few hours sleep.... generally after putting 5 year old to bed at around 8. I'll then go to sleep at 8:30pm and get back up at 11pm. Ive asked DH to do a dream feed at 11pm so try and establish some sort of a routine..... So far hes done it once. I come downstairs to find them both asleep. AIBU to expect him to start the dream feed so I can maybe grab few hours in the night alongside baby. He states it's not his fault he's so tired and falls asleep. He's sooooooo exhausted after a days work. But I think he is being unreasonable and isn't thinking about my welfare? All he has to do is set his phone alarm! Sorry my post is rambling and probably not in paragraphs. I'm typing this on my phone while holding a sleeping baba! Also as a sidenote.... Do dream feeds even work?