Coming back to the bonding issue. The ideas put forward by odent aren't necessarily about initial mother-baby bonding, but also geared towards how as a society we form relationships later in life. Considering how if we aren't exposed to natural oxytocin at the point of birth, how does that impact later relationship bonds. As I said earlier, it's a theory and an interesting one at that.
The risks of c section are many and varied, and most women who sign that consent form won't even give them a second thought, because they expect 'pain and bleeding'.
What they don't expect is major haemorrhage, scar dehiscence, infection possibly leading to sepsis - (and I've seen some really grim wound infections, requiring packing daily and several corrective surgeries.)
They also don't expect potential bladder damage and having to self catheterise for months on end while trying to restrain themselves to be able to pee.
They don't expect continuing scar pain, ongoing for years and years.
They don't expect in a next pregnancy to have placenta praevia, placenta accreta (or percreta or increta for that matter), they don't expect massive adhesions to bladder and bowel (most likely cause of ongoing pain), they don't expect their subsequent elective c section to take hours of a consultant's time to separate those adhesions safely.
They certainly don't expect a DVT or Pulmonary embolism and despite being told to use their prophylactic ante-embolic devices, such as stockings and heparin injections.
For years and years now, the two key causes of maternal morbidity and mortality in childbearing are DVT/PE and Sepsis - both of which are far more likely if you have a C section.
Women don't expect to have any of these complications after a c section, yet they are very real risks; risks which those who work in maternity see every single day. Women don't expect to die during or shortly after a c section, but it is one of the risks. You sign that consent form stating that you're aware of those risks and I bet that many, if not all of you don't even consider that it could happen to you. It can. It does.
That is why medical professionals will discourage anyone against an elective c section for no clear medical indication.
That is why the 'I want one so I should have one' argument doesn't and shouldn't stand without detailed enquiry into why someone would opt for it with no medical need.
When it comes down to those working in maternity, we couldn't care less about the cost of what happens to you. That's not the point and really doesn't factor in the delivery of your care. What we do care about it the short and long term health implications that this choice can have on you, your baby and your family.
I couldn't give a shiny shit if your birth cost £10 or £10,000, what I do give a crap about is that you and your baby come out of it in the best possible condition and I can guarantee that the rest of the nhs staff do too.
Just because what the extensive research says isn't what you want to hear does not give anyone reason to be dismissive or rude. If you made a choice to have a c section without medical necessity, then own that decision but don't downplay the very real risks of that intervention.