To not go on this night out?

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Basically I really really don't want to go.
It's with 3 friends,going into town tomorrow night and getting drunk basically.
My anxiety isn't great at the minute and drinking alcohol wouldn't help.
Plus the weather is heavy rain and wind,I'm due my period and feel shattered and I would be wasting £60 when all I want to do is be in the house.
I know they will go in a mood with me,and I'm worried about loosing friends.
I woke up today and had a awful nervous feeling ..that's how much I'm dreading it.
It's like I'm going to the dentist not out.
They all get drunk and I can't be bothered to walk around in pissing rain.
What would you do?

I always find that the nights out I really don't want to go on are the ones I enjoy the most, but it's your call

In your situation, I wouldn't go. I hate flakiness and try not to let friends down but when I'm going through a bad anxiety period I have to be honest and say I need to give it a miss. With anxiety, you have bad days and worse days and sometimes, on just a bad day, you think you'll be able to go but when it comes round it just creates even more crippling anxiety.

They'll be disappointed but hopefully if they are good friends they'll understand. Just try to make it up to them when you're feeling better by seeing them more often maybe.

I'm having a bad time with it lately.
One of them cancelled on me last week and another one cancelled a few weeks before too.

You gave 8 valid reasons to not go and only 1 to go, that being your friends would be in a mood with you.
Just don't go, friends should understand and if they don't then they aren't true friends.
It doesn't need to be made into a big thing, "sorry I can't come out tonight, not feeling great and just want to stay in and get cosy, have a good night though". It really isn't a big deal I don't know why they would make it into one.

They don't seem too concerned cancelling on you so cancel and don't worry about it

Well they've cancelled on you so I just wouldn't go

I'd cancel and I'd do it now. Get in before someone else cancels!

Mmm, what could you spend that £60 on...

I actually posted a couple of months ago about this one friend.
She owed me money but went on a night out instead of paying ..then blocked me for the night so I wouldn't see.
Found out through local pubs page when I seen her photo on the night out.

You’re not well. You can’t go. Apologise and wish them a good time. Have a cosy night in.

I could get myself a takeaway and treat myself to a new top with the £60 too

Don't go. They don't sound like good friends anyway. Takeaway and a new top sounds like a much better way to spend money. Maybe start easing yourself away from this group if they aren't supportive of you when you are having low mental health periods. Friends build each other up, not get moody and block each other.

'I really, really don't want to go' was all I needed - just don't. Empowering.

Nice!

Surely you knew all this when it was arranged and you said you were going?

Don’t go but I hate it when people cancel the day before or last minute

No I never know when my anxiety is going to act up.
Unfortunately I can't control my anxiety
Wish I could and wish I knew what sets off my intrusive thoughts and panic attacks.