To ask dp to get a car seat?

[GrumblyinHants]

I asked DP if he would put one in his car so he can take my dd in his car rather than always using mine when he takes her places and he started rolling his eyes and sighing about it being a hassle! Dd is not his but he's happy to run her about if need be to help out, not that often but more lately due to our work times changing slightly. It's caused me a problem a few times when I've needed the car and he's using it with dd so I suggested a car seat and wasnt expecting that reaction!! He offers to help out so it not just me demanding a taxi service all the time!! And when I said about driving dd about less and me just doing things later he didnt like that either....!

He says it will be a pain because he drives his DS and his friends places and he doesn't want to keep taking it out.

I see his side but he threw such a strop I'm not sure if I'm asking too much or if he's being a manchild about this. I really hate driving his car so me borrowing it when he's got mine isn't ideal solution

Maybe he isn't as happy as you think about looking after your dd.....

Personally I don't think so - it probably makes more sense - we have 2 cars and a seat in each as its lots of hassle to move them about and you can get them fairly inexpensively. Unless its a baby seat? How old is your daughter?
If I give anyone lifts I just throw the seat in the boot.

@aprilislonggone if he doesn't want to have her why would he offer? There's only very few times he's HAD to have her alone ,other times it's just been about convenience and him not wanting me to do whatever it was in the evening after work

@ohcomeonron dd is 3. Cost not the problem, he's moaning about taking it out putting it back in. But he also wants to keep doing shopping, nursery run, etc with dd while I do prep before work etc even though he doesn't HAVE to

Not sure what he wants! I can't change my job so it's this or I do things in the evening !!

Maybe he wants the glory /gratitude for the favour without actually making any effort?

Could you get insurance to drive his car so you can drive his if he's out with DD in yours?

Are you asking him to buy it or would you?

Why don't you get insured on his car so you can both use either?

Get one of these then it can be slung in the boot when not needed. www.amazon.co.uk/your-orders/pop/ref=oh_aui_i_d_rec_o4?gen=canonical&lineItemId=qhpmrwlukqsrqw&orderId=202-1460155-7452350&_encoding=UTF8&shipmentId=D1M8NTy0y&packageId=1&returnSummaryId&tag=mumsnetforum-21&returnUnitIndices

If she’s big enough of course.

I would buy it ofc

@aprilislonggone could be that. He loves swooping in to swooping in to save the day with lifts and trips for his son too ( hence driving him n friends all over)

I am on his insurance but I really hate his car. It's massive and his pride and joy so I feel slightly terrified I'm going to scratch it etc the whole time j am out with it
Thought that might serve him right for being awkward haha

What type of car does he drive? Some cars are notorious for being difficult to use car seats

Your daughter is not his. And presumably my hasn’t been on the scene all that long if your daughter is only 3. But he still seems I help out a fair bit.

So be happy with the bigger picture. Yes, it’s occasionally a pain for you. If such it up and focus on the positive.

He has a BMW 5 series.

I can't wait to get rid of the car seat in my car. It makes the car ugly. And there's no way I'd want to have to install a car seat only when it was going to be used. Even the nice isofix one I have would be annoying to keep putting in and taking out.

Is my post invisible?

Just stop being worried and drive his car! I don't see the problem tbh and would find it annoying if DH refused to drive my car. That seems simpler than moving car seats around all the time! We have a 7 seater and always have a car seat in the boot for if a friend comes but tbh it annoys me being in the boot when shopping etc and if a lot of faff to leave it hanging round the house for airport runs or taking the dog out etc!

Girlfriends dont like spotting a child seat in a car. Instant distrust.

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The link is wrong. It goes to the Amazon sign in page

O sorry OP, I withdraw that, I thought he was an ex. Apologies.

He wants to put all the miles on your car instead of driving his lovely big BMW around. Probably using all your diesel too.

What sort of seat? Would you be happy with a basic high-backed booster that can be taken out in seconds?

The clunkier ones are a fucking faff to be fair.

Oh. Well at least it’s there!

It’s a trunki packpack booster seat. Small and portable and can be used daily if necessary. www.google.co.uk/search?q=trunki+boostapak&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-gb&client=safari#lbl=OVERVIEW&pie=plaji-i

Just get an isofix seat, click in click out...No bother.

I've showed him various seats, said I'd buy one he thought suitable, he's still hung up on hassle factor...supposedly

Icing on the cake he said "Perhaps we need to be more organised"

Mega facepalm that was his whole reasoning for taking over shopping and dd nursery run!! Wasn't sure whether to laugh or cry! Think ill just start taking his car, that should help him 'organise!'