to ignore everyone and not tell them I'm in hospital?

[HosieG]

Been admitted to hospital as my baby's placenta isn't doing too well. Not sure what the plan is yet. I have a feeling they are going to check my cervix to see if favourable for induction (unlikely at 36 weeks?) but fingers crossed.

It was always the plan not to tell people I was in labour. Only mum and Dad and of course DH. I'm very scared I might have to have c section but needs must. Had a few texts as it was meant to be my last day at work today. People wondering where I am, what I'm up to, why I'm not in work etc. Friends texting.

I am really down and feeling a bit pestered. I am so happy that people care, but I just want to be left alone.

Do I just ignore and risk worrying people or upsetting them? Do I send out a generic message just saying I'll be in touch in due course?

I'm feeling very stressed, don't like hospitals, scared of c section as I've had surgery go wrong in the past. Trying to work through it all and need some me time... suggestions?

Just email your manager and say a lot of people from the office are texting you and would he mind letting them know you're in hospital for monitoring and will respond when you're feeling better.

Whatever you decide please don't worry about other people. They all care about you which is wonderful. Just try to keep calm and focus on yourself and your baby. Is anyone with you at hospital?

Just email your manager and say a lot of people from the office are texting you and would he mind letting them know you're in hospital for monitoring and will respond when you're feeling better

This, but do it by text. And that you'll be turning your phone onto do not disturb whilst you're inpatient.

... & Maybe add (to text to your boss) that it's nice everyone is being so caring...

I think saying nothing is fine. If it were me I'd send a text to let you know I was thinking of you but I wouldn't want you to feel obliged to respond if you didn't want to.

I wouldn't even mention being in hospital or say anything about the baby as that will just generate more texts/worry.

I'd just send one text to someone you know will help you out and say 'been getting lots of texts asking if everything is ok, can you let people know I've had a really sleepless night and am ok but exhausted so turning my phone off and will reply once I feel up to it but thank them all for their concern?'

Then just ignore/turn phone off.

Just a quick text to say you are fine but need to turn phone off as resting. If you end up staying in for days, why not just let partner/friend keep others updated so they are not worried but you can keep your phone off? That is what would have happened pre-mobile!

All the best, cs is not the end of the world and mine was fine even though it was an emergency. All healed well and I went on to have a natural birth the second time. The only important thing is the baby is delivered in the best way for her/his and your safety. All the best.

YANBU to not reply if you don't want to! You don't need more than about two brain cells to work out that if a heavily pregnant women suddenly doesn't turn up somewhere she's either having the baby or things might not be ok, and either way replying to everyones messages probably isn't her priority.

Just ignore them. Right now they're not important.

You should give your manager instructions to let folks know if they ask - default is s/he won't be able to share information.

Turn your phone off
Deep breath. Focus on you and bub
Everyone will be understanding once an official arrival message/post/email/whatever form of communication